Freedom is
sleeping peacefully
any time you want.
Tag: Lifestyle
My writings are compared. WHY??
I don’t know if it’s to be anti-thetical to my views or otherwise, but I like the way people laugh at daily prompt questions. It clicks with the other side of my nature i.e. you don’t always have to be serious about writing. Writing is to loosen yourself up and express yourself, not to sound perfect or better than others.
Many of us have got actual work of highly structured documentation which needs every single word, thought, and punctuation to be weighed properly and we show our literary prowess and structured thoughts there.
I usually sound quite child-like in my daily writings in blogs of which the reason is only that I come here to share a thought or a funny thing which I feel like sharing. Although, I can assure that whatever I share in my blogs is not even 1 percent of what I think.
Moreover, despite writing so many posts, I would still say that I am not a writer per se. This is just a hobby for me which other people presumed to be my passion in the past and some even thought that it was my only profession.
This is just a medium for me to unburden my mind amd connect with others whenever I can and how-so-ever I can and I find it really toxic on others’ part when they start competing with me about it or comparing me with others or assume, presume, and expect me to write something a certain way.
It’s only my hobby, you know, and if you are comparing it with professionals in this area, then I must say I am very good at it.
I AM POWERFUL!!
When even a million trials can’t corrupt your soul or shake your ground, that’s how you know you are powerful.
By powerful, I do not mean powerful money-wise or politically. Powerful in your being, in your existence, in your spirit. You can feel spiritually your rays shining throughout your aura like a billion stars illuminating from your own energy.
The fortitude becomes a very small word after that. You see in yourself the existence of divine, infinity and beyond.
Afiirm “I AM POWERFUL” and feel it deeply and abundantly.
My Bestie #147
Mine or of others?
Actually, I was very close to having my bones broken multiple times- more than 10 times!! But, because of God’s mercy and protection, I got saved somehow, quite miraculously a couple of times!!
Always grateful to God and Angels for the never-ending protection.
And I hope that other innocent souls may also be protected the same way.
AMEN!!🧿🧿🧿🧿🧿🧿🧿
About the latter part- I am a very peaceful person and things like this do not cross my mind for months and even years. But on rare occasions I think that I can reach there when I introspect what would I do in case any of my loved ones be in such a danger that I would have no other choice than to break bones? Just in case, I easily can, as I am a protective warrior. But.. I pray to God (that I am praying from many years) that I never have to be in such a situation in the future and my loved ones stay protected just like I am the protected one by God and Angels.
AMEN!!🧿🧿🧿🧿🧿🧿🧿
How to ground yourself (Continued)
You can click on the above given link for my first post on grounding.
Now, let’s jump straight to the use of sensations for grounding.
How often do you remember the smell of a flower or a perfume or anything?? How often do you visualize the beauty of nature that you experienced some time ago?? How often do you expect yourself to touch velvet or grass (not touch grass slang/idiom here)?? How often do you crave the taste of something eaten in the last season or a newly tried cuisine?? How much do you remember certain voices??
I am sure, a lot.
Now, for grounding yourself you have to divert your mind to reality which sounds quite ironical as you have to divert your mind from the distraction itself. When you get obsessed with any experience of the past, you need to remember which of your senses were involved during that experience. When you have made a list mentally, then use those senses the most to observe your surroundings. For example- You were enthralled by the scenic beauty of a place in which only your visual sensation was involved. You cannot get it out of your mind to the point of feeling like going to that place right away and cannot focus on anything else. Now, you need to sit or stand or even lay down quietly for a few minutes and name anything you see in front of you and around you. Do this for about 3-5 minutes. Extend the time if you still feel the urge towards that sensory experience.
This takes practice but This will definitely bring you back to reality. Coming back to reality and accepting it as it is quietly is what is called grounding.
This technique works for all the sensory experiences that make you feel distracted from your current reality and brings your stray thoughts back to yourself and What Is.
Freedom is #1
Freedom is
going out bare faced
and having no hesitation in that. 🙂
Hi..I am starting a new series and it will go on as long as it can. Kindly support but only if you agree and appreciate. Sympathetic likes, comments, are unappreciated here. Also, trying to be here for grouping against any other person is strictly discouraged.
My Bestie #146
Setting the priorities clearly is the key here.
When I love my family as well as work, the only struggle remains is how much time and energy to give to what. For that, I do not really have to be ultra-disciplined. If my family needs me, I will delay the work to whatever extend I possibly can. But, if they are easy going, healthy, happy, and fine, then my work takes whole of my energy. It’s not out of any kind of imposition over me. I actually love to work and feel great after 15-16 hours of work.
The point is I get satisfaction from serving in both of these areas and being highly workaholic, it’s easy for me to do more.
It’s not about just completing the tasks at work or just fulfilling duties at home. It’s more about quality time at home and quality work.
Most of the times (almost all the time), I read my own mental and physical energy and then proceed to choose what I can, and keep the other area loose for some time (a few hours or days). Otherwise, in case I have essential things to do in both the spheres, then I try to be ultra-disciplined as disciplined as I do not leave even 5 minutes spare in my day’s scheduling.
Last but very importantly, my family is very beautiful that has started understanding to a good extent that I love to work more, so they do not become very demanding with me, the demands that could reach the point of frustration in the past and when we spend time together it’s always quality time, be it of 5 minutes in an hour of work or 5 days trip.
In the past, it was hard for me to leave work for even 5 minutes and my schedules used to be very tight as I have just explained. Now, I am quite lenient with it for family and myself. After all, who am I working for??
Apart from above, if this question means, doing house chores or something like that, that I do not do at all. That’s not my thing (I will explain this some other day).
HOW TO GROUND YOURSELF..🧘♂️🧘♀️
Grounding is not meditation per se or being an ascetic or adopting any other form of fancy technique to seem like a person not belonging to this world.
Grounding is exactly the opposite of it. Grounding is being aware of what is. The question of “what is” would make one be aware of multiple layers of anything. As deeper as one would go into it, the more of grounding will happen.
Grounding is not floating in thoughts though. Grounding is asking oneself “is it really true??” “What exactly it is??” One does not even have to ask the WHYs while practicing grounding as it may provoke presumptions which are counterproductive to grounding.
Meditation though helps yet is not the medium of grounding. Rather, one can simply breathe in and out deeply for about 10 minutes and observe the surroundings, first focussing on breath and then on simple things like Colour of any object present nearby or feeling the texture of any material or focussing on one’s own body.
Once basic grounding is done, then one can proceed further to detangling thoughts that are making one flight in mind from reality or fight with oneself as to internal conflicts. For that one should ask oneself questions like “what I am thinking is even true??” “Where is the proof??” The moment you start asking for proofs in reality for your own thoughts, you start grounding yourself.
This takes a lot of practice as human tendency is to enforce one’s thoughts upon others and oneself rather than questioning oneself and one’s beliefs. Yes, beliefs, because what has no proof is merely a belief.
Once you have become an expert in grounding yourself, the task has not ended there, rather you will have to do it over and over again any time you become aware that you have switched on your amygdala and are operating on a flight or fight mode.
Constant grounding feels like being in a permanent meditative state of mind, despite all the ebbs and flows.
Grounding is a sensational experience to actually get rid of sensations created by our own mind. And..for that, you can choose the best sensory experience for you, be it auditory, olfactory, visual, gustatory, somatic or a combination of two or more of them.
I will talk more about it tomorrow or over-morrow.
My Bestie #145
My life is more of compromises and sacrifices than triumphs, although I am surely rewarded for my sacrifices in the end.
First of all, I had to sacrifice my whole of childhood and inner child to be wiser than adults of my family and take care if my elders.
I don’t like to go into details of these things as people tend to be sympathetic afterwards, and I abhor sympathy. Moreover, I would inherently hate if they would show sympathy towards my father as he was a very strong man and didn’t deserve sympathy but praise and appreciation.
Later on, I gave up on my wishes of higher studies abroad as when I was about to complete law graduation, my father got diagnosed with cancer. Otherwise, I had plans to do either MBA in London or LLM in USA, but during his illness and after his death, AGAIN, my family needed me more than I can tell.
I have sacrificed my love for my love’s love multiple times. I was observant enough of what was going on and desirous of being with him but given his confused nature, I did not move further towards him. When I got to know that he wanted someone else in the past, I, first moved off his way peacefully but I could not get him out of my heart and mind. Then, I found love in a good friend, but that too did not work but I am okay with that because I had never loved him that passionately (friend), it was more of a cute and cozy feeling between us.
I was about to sacrifice on my dream career for love again but thank God , that God opened up my eyes. When it’s meant to be, I do not need to make this many sacrifices for love and rather it would come to me in divine timing. I am getting all the signs in dreams and in awaken state of mind and I am letting it unfold in front of me. My angels tell me that I do not have to be perfect to receive love. He would love me the way I am and I will love him the way he is , given some improvements from both the sides. After all, I have my own negative and self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviour due to past traumas of various kinds and I am sure that he also has such patterns inhibit in him. But, if my angels are telling me not to make any more sacrifices for my love to be fulfilled and us to feel wholesome, I need not make any sacrifices, neither about my love nor about my core values nor about my career nor about my personality.
Traffic
Angels gave a nudge
Eyeliner applied smudge;
Got ruined in a day
in hustle bustlenof a stay;
in the hot air
hair flying in flare,
like fire smoking hot
in the melting pot;
of myriad of cultures- epic
in a single lane traffic.
I Think For All 