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Narcissist: You are not a kind person.

(because I don’t put up with their manipulation n BS.)

Me: I am actually the cruelest person I have ever know. Don’t force me to show you that side of mine. RUN!

ALWAYS FEELING UNSETTLED.

Be selfish.

How to deal with an utterly selfish family member??

Let them be selfish. Start being selfish yourself, about your energy-especially mental energy.

A minor debate Analysis: Law versus A Ritual.

https://youtu.be/Rj_-E9kwPY4

I think Sadhguru gave a good explanation but he could add to all that only one line that “Yes, legally nobody can stop women from entering any temple but spiritually it’s not good for them given the explanation but still nothing can stop them.” Whereas he took a new turn towards the Constitution of India which was completely unneccessary. Moreover, he was trying to prove that those DESCRIPTIONS of religious beliefs are more important than the Supreme Court of India’s judgements.

It’s all about how much importance you give to beliefs in personal life but in the era of constitutionalism, you can’t impose those beliefs socially on anyone no matter how much you think they have a stronger reason to be followed than law.

Another Me Required.

NGL, I need one more me for me and myself.

Not following the process.

After that, if you want to apply make-up, then,

BB/CC Cream,

Primer,

Concealer,

Foundation,

Contouring sticks,

Highlighter,

Loose face powder,

Eye-liner,

Maskara/false eye-lashes,

Eye-shadow,

Eye-brow pencil,

Lip primer,

Lip pencil,

Lip colour,

Lip gloss,

Make-up setting spray.

**Le Me (95% of the times)- Bare faced with a lip balm applied. Just washing the face does the job.

Because following all of this process takes time. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ€£

Girl chose laziness and is content about it😌

Me, who drove car at the age of 8, then at 11, then at 17 learnt driving from a driving school, then at 24 or 25 (I don’t remember) learnt driving my own car, still doesn’t drive. Say you are skillful and lazy without saying you are skillful and lazy. 😌

The same goes for many other skills.

Suffocating a narcissist.

How to suffocate a narcissist??

Give them attention once in a while and not at all at all the other times. Switch between these two inconsistently. This suffocates a narcissist to the core as a narc is always seeking your attention either by ignoring you so that you chase the narc or by bombarding you with attention-both positive and negative by triangulating, accusing, etc.

No constant attention means lack of supply of energy to the narcissist.

Although, don’t do it to a healthy minded person, lest you would seem to be a narcissist. Healthy minded people don’t give a fuck to people having this behaviour whereas a narcissist feels suffocated due to lack of attention.

PROs:

1. You are portraying as well as having freedom to give attention any time. You are not bound for that though.

2. You are playing a narc on a narc and giving a narcissist a taste of his own medicine.

3. You actually realize that it was you all along who was feeling bound in the narcissistic loop whereas you could anytime switch up on a narc just like he does.

4. You get time and energy to focus on other things more rather than dancing to the tunes of the narc.

5. You can ultimately get rid of a narc. A narc suffocated with no to least and irregular attention, that too, not on his whims and caprices, makes him run away (at least for a long time).

CONs:

  1. Narc will accuse you of being a narc and create drama everywhere he could get sympathy against you.
  2. Narc will go mad and may abuse you as well to get that negative attention that he is desperately seeking.
  3. Narc will use all of his tactics like gaslighting, blame-game, triangulation, pity-party, love-bombing, against you to bring you back to that narc-puppet, narc-supply loop.
  4. If the other person is not a narc, you may prove to be a narc. So, be careful and first of all be very sure that that person is a pathological narc. Do not jump to conclusions based on assumptions and on few subtle signs only.

Be Careful:

Narc will do DRAMA, manipulation, accusations, TRIANGULATION, name-calling, whenever n wherever he could. Let him be. Enjoy the show of what we call in psychology ‘Monkey Dance’.

Clarifying unfollow-follow

Hi everyone, I am arranging my followed websites. If I follow you again this week, it does not mean that I had unfollowed you long ago; It just means that I have had unfollowed you a few seconds or minutes ago, that too, not because I intended to unfollow you but because it was required to arrange my followed websites.

An ill relationship dynamic.

“It’s easier for a woman to get a man than for a man to get a woman. Let that sink in.”

Still, when a man gets comfortable in knowing that a woman is all about him, he goes on to chasing and hoeing around other women, sometimes just to have the thrill of the chase game and sometimes because he starts thinking “if I can get this one I can find and get better one” (better only according to his own mentality).

The problem with the woman who got committed to a hoe like this is that she stays committed, although may break-up factually but emotionally, to him. This in turn is perceived as a green signal by the man that he can have access to her, later on, with just a bit of emotional manipulation when he is done hoeing around and fooling around other women. The other women who may not have given even a single shit to him are perceived as a threat by the emotionally attached and emotionally traumatized woman and then she starts competing with one or a few of those women.

The problem with the man: He is a Narcissist with a Chaser Syndrome.

The problem with the woman: She is a person with Low Emotional Intelligence Quotient who also can’t see the whole truth because of her inner insecurities regarding other women with whom he is making her compete indirectly.

Solution: Leave that narcissistic shit just like you flush off shit in toilet rather than competing with other women. Block him from everywhere, especially from your mind. You will be accused of being Cold-hearted, emotionless, robotic, who doesn’t care for anyone etc. and manipulated a lot after this, emotionally as well with drama of the whole world; BUT you have to keep in mind how that person was lowering your respect in front of him and those other women, be it sneakily or openly. You got to have your Self-Respect uber high in your own mind.

It’s not even about “You will get someone better” because this kind of thinking may put you in another loop of ego and self-doubt. It’s only about “YOU WILL FEEL BETTER about yourself.” Also, by doing this your decision-making power keeps getting strong and stronger; and, emotionally and mentally manipulative people keep getting weaker in front of you.

PS- The same dynamic, situations, terminology, and solution are deemed to apply genders inter-changed, although it happens more often when it concerns the genders as described.

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