Learn to know the difference between people going through a lot because of inevitable circumstances in their life And people suffering because of their own jealousy, envy, insecurities, ego, and misery.
You fool yourself, or should I say, they fool you, everytime you sympathise with the latter. The moment you elevate their ego, they leave you like you ain’t shit or give you crumbs to get you stuck in their Misery🔄Elevate Their Ego Loop.
I can only explain, choice is all yours. I can’t save others’ energy, nor I can deal with such people in the long run who are always into sympathising with inherently toxic people.
Just because some people do not use words that can make them look like a negative person, doesn’t mean they are not negative. Narcissists use this kind of facade the most.
People who are actually going through or have gone through some really rough time may not have expressed it in any way.
People who have the tendency to or the habit of jumping to conclusions often call and categorise themselves as ‘Over-Thinkers‘. I am sorry to break it to you lovely people, but, you are not Over-thinkers; you are actually ‘Under-thinkers‘.
Over-thinking barely has to do with jumping to conclusions without collecting all the sufficient facts of the situation and without considering all the necessary facets of that situation/event. Over-thinkers, in fact, re-consider all the facts and facets of anything despite having readily available conclusions, in front of them, drawn by someone else.
Be with someone who would never make you feel like a failure but also someone who would go miles with you for your success as well. Going miles with you have nothing to do with doing your part of the work, but moving along with you while you do it for yourself. Also, expect such a partner only if you are willing to be That Person for them as well.
It is said that ambitious people have only two options- A supportive partner or No partner at all, and I can’t agree more.
People with vision become more humble when they succeed in the manifestation of their vision as they know how many struggles it took them to reach there. People with useless unhealthy ego become humble only when they fail as they are left with no other choice as they become perplexed or stay stuck in that place having no to little vision about what to do next.
It’s not only a difference between vision and ego. It’s also a difference between dominant types with a vision and submissive types having no vision. The latter ones usually run towards small-term and superficial goals like “I want to be famous”, “I want to earn money”, “I want to be popular” etc. and if you ask them exactly what they want to do and how, they usually have no clear answer. The former ones the those who have a long-term and large scale vision. They do not go behind short-term dopamine boosters. They are more humble when they keep on succeeding as they know that their success is just one of the steps to fulfil their vision, and their long-term vision is not only the self-serving one like those so-called failed humble ones. Even when they fail, they cannot leave their warrior spirit which the latter submissive types with no vision get intimidated by and can’t digest.
Last but not the least, my views seem to be arrogant to every hypocrite who is humble only when he/she is failing or losing, and uber egoistic n never humble when winning.
Once upon a time I was this guy, living in a parallel universe, who wanted to live in another universe-in another world, And here I am, a human being, who still feels weird and awkward amongst other human beings.