I tell you one thing about kindness and why I cannot forgive Intentional Faults in behaviour. Mistake done once is okay to me, I do not even pay much heed to it and ignore it like nothing happened, but, if the same thing is done twice, then it’s a choice, and when you have made a choice to be a defaulter/culprit, you cannot be forgiven because your intention is to commit that act which offends my boundaries- psychological, social or physical.
In law, the culprit deserves and is punished after the conviction is proved. Apologies become meaningless after that because the damage has been done to the victim and the situation cannot be reverted back to its original position. Motives do not matter in convictions, the act done and the intention to do that act are enough to prove the commitment of the crime.
Anyone may say that they did something wrong to me because of this/that. Here, I rarely consider the WHYs because the first time, I can go into the ‘why’ of something done to me because I really want to understand the psychological reason behind it, but the second time the ‘why’ becomes useless and the apologies become meaningless, and thus, forgiving becomes almost impossible, as the second time it is someone’s choice to offend me and/or my boundaries.
I am describing this because many people don’t get it why I am so unforgiving. I apply law, science, and psychology in every single thing. People usually don’t get where I come from.
Also, if I am kind, it does not mean that I am and I have allowed anyone to be informal in interactions with me. Kindness and informal behaviour are completely two different things. I am usually kind and formal. Being informal with anyone takes me a lot of time and interactions. This is how I am since my very childhood. You can stay assured that I have been informal with, at most, about 5-6 people (apart from my family members) in my entire life. Kindly respect that as it’s one of my boundaries i.e. not being informal with anyone without a conscious decision on the part of both the parties i.e. me and the other person.
These two virtues are very core of my personality that others usually find confusing and difficult to understand or deal with, and I hope that many things are clear now.
My mobile notification just pinged me with an e-mail noyifying me that I have achieved 1000 followers mark on my website. To me, you all are a wonderful fellow writers community (rather than followers). Just two days ago I was thinking that I could never grow in blogging community. Negative thoughts had engulfed my mind. But thank goodness, I switched to a positive mindset and thought that I could enhance my writing and blogging skills. I am trying and will keep trying. I love to be and called a learner for life, and I hope that you all will stay connected and keep sharing your amazing writings.
When you turn a blind eye to negative and bad people and start connecting with the good ones, your life definitely starts getting better; no matter how small the change be, the change should be in a good direction.
A BIG THANK YOU TO ALL OF YOU FOR BEING SO KIND AND POLITE TO ME AND FOR ALSO APPRECIATING MY WORK. THAT TRULY MEANS A LOT TO ME. 🙏❤
Stay happy and blessed, and keep giving a doze of your mind and heart through words. LOVE AND BLESSING 🙂❤
This is the digital painting I just created. Hope anyone can guess it must not have taken me much to get this idea. The point is, ideas are precious, be it in writing or creating art. The original the better.
Apart from this message, do tell me if you find any other perspective looking at this digital painting.
(Note: Please do not copy the words or download the picture without written consent of the author. All the copyrights are reserved by the author. Thank you. ❤)