Lessons in your 30s about your 20s.

Lessons you will learn in your 30s about your twenties:

  1. Partying hard is important but working harder is even more important.
  2. Planning in your early twenties about your next 20 years could be life changing.
  3. Go with the flow is the stupidest and useless concept, specially in career.
  4. Knowledge gained in twenties never goes in vain.
  5. It’s better to build a body in your twenties that can sustain anything in your later life for decades. Eating clean and healthy, working out really hard, getting sunshine and rain, breathing fresh air, etc. regularly could put you above most of the folks of your age who were into eating a lot of junk food, consuming alcohol, smoking, etc.
  6. Those stupid crushes were nothing but a distraction.
  7. Making connections just for the sake of career is really important.
  8. Strategic expenditure and investments could put you ahead 90% of the people in 30s.
  9. You could save a lot of wasted time and energy you spent on fake people, fake relationships, fake friendships.
  10. You could be at least 10 times better if you had started preparing 10-12 months before any expected opportunity for your success and could succeed as well.
  11. One career is not enough. One source of income is not enough.
  12. Anybody can switch up on you, no matter who; even closest of family members for whom you may always fight.
  13. People really didn’t matter and should not have mattered as much as you thought they did.
  14. Who thinks what about you and your actions does not matter at all when you have reasons for each of your action and you are moving with the right and ethical purpose in mind.
  15. Choosing your battles wisely is ultra-important. Letting some people live in their lies, misery, and stupidity, and going on with your head held high could save you a lot of mental energy.
  16. Getting credits and appreciation for the work done by you was so necessary, be it in any form- reciprocated favour, certificates, money, or expanding the word about you.
  17. Waiting for your love to be fulfilled by the other person as well kept you stuck for a long time. You could rather find the right partner and love could happen later on between you two.
  18. Hoeing around many people kept you away from the best one for you, that you could have, that could be life changing for you for the better.
  19. Humility and kindness were important but you should not have let people walk over you or use you or your sources.
  20. Expecting anything from others is like blocking your own efficiency.
  21. World runs on give and take; and people would keep on taking if you are a giver without boundaries.
  22. You live only once is the utterly non-sense concept. You actually die only once and can live multiple lives and get a taste of different cultures, careers, people (as friends or acquaintances) but in a systematic manner. There is no point in spoiling your life though YOLO.
  23. The fear of missing out is just a concept driven out of peer pressure. You never missed out on anything when you were completely sure that you didn’t want that thing or event to happen at that time.
  24. Life is too short. Never leave an opportunity to speak your mind. Express emotions and let others know your thoughts without any fear of mis-judgements. 95-99% of the people misjudged your silence anyway.
  25. Ignoring your creative side for the sake of your logical side and rational career could have made you feel frustrated for years.
  26. You didn’t have to prove yourself to any single person on this planet about anything.
  27. Learning skills were important but are always overly hyped. If you had taken enough time in understanding the working of anything, practicing it could take very little time. Studying and educating yourself intensively as well as extensively over your area of interest could really lead you towards expertise in it.
  28. Jump first, think later is a stupid phrase. Thinking a lot before jumping into something could save you years or your entire life And from feelings like guilt, regret, and resentment. Don’t be driven by id.
  29. One partner was really enough. You just didn’t have it in you to stay loyal or to be patient to find the right one.
  30. Putting yourself first is never selfish. When you do help in terms of work, therapy, money, out of kindness, people start feeling entitled to it. People on top positions call it charity actually.

Are you really an Over-Thinker??

People who have the tendency to or the habit of jumping to conclusions often call and categorise themselves as ‘Over-Thinkers‘. I am sorry to break it to you lovely people, but, you are not Over-thinkers; you are actually ‘Under-thinkers‘.

Over-thinking barely has to do with jumping to conclusions without collecting all the sufficient facts of the situation and without considering all the necessary facets of that situation/event. Over-thinkers, in fact, re-consider all the facts and facets of anything despite having readily available conclusions, in front of them, drawn by someone else.

Learning to fly…..

You may as well,
To save yourself from drowning in marshy waters,
Want to learn to fly.
๐Ÿ’ž

(Originally posted on 6th jan,2021)

Reminiscing my nature.

I can’t even explain how I think. Many live in and for experiences. I really don’t seek them. I don’t seek events to make memories about them. I don’t think that we are what we create or some experiences can create us (ok particularly me here). How I take experiences is purely the mental stimulators or catalysts for different thinking. As far as I remember nothing has changed me much. Those who know me now or at whatever period of time they might have known me may think that I have changed a lot. But that’s not true. They have only seen my behaviour for a short period of time n for a few events or so on but my basic nature has always been like this only.

I was always quiet in front of the outsiders (school, college, relatives functions, strangers etc.) and quiet in my own home maybe for eternity.. but.. whenever I wanted to socialise I was one hella fun person. I was always the one who organised family functions to the T (not the labour part, ok). I was always sporty whenever anyone came to the house (n got comfy in the family) to play a game or two. I made jokes whenever I observed something laugh-worthy in the surroundings. I was analysing situations, people’s behaviour and dynamics of different kinds right from my very childhood (like since the age of 6-7 years old). I always observed a lot. Like really.. I can very confidently say that I filter about 95-98% of things that I observe just because I find them quite useless including people who think that they can always sneak, tresspass, abuse n escape.. “Nope ! You didn’t. I did let you because you are not important at all.” If you think that I have become angrier, that too, is in my nature by birth, though the outlets have changed. I used to store it all or tended to flush off that energy by playing cricket for two hours daily in the evening (though with my brother n father only). It was really a good release of energy then. Now I feel like not storing any shit in my mind n release it all through words. If we talk about confidence. I always had a very good amount of self-confidence but I was always quiet about it because I was getting regular recognition about my capability through professors n results etc. Now I have to show it in other ways because of the wake of social media as in this era if you don’t verbalise or show your capabilities, then you are considered not to have them at all and those who are ept at showing off, become successful, though they might have half of your capabilities.

The point is.. I was always more or less similar..Not much has changed.. Neither my nature, nor my strength.. It’s just that those who have started to know different sides of me or my deeper layers, they think that I have changed a lot; they actually never knew me. Really.. Never..

Strangest thing about me: I do the things, I hate to do, the most. This one I still cannot understand why. Sooner or later, I end up doing things that I really hate.

Strongest point about me: I really, and by this I mean REALLY, I don’t give a fuck about who thinks what about me.

Weakest point about me: I won’t actualise something until I have done it to perfection, exactly the way I visualised it, and even after reaching that point I keep polishing it so that it can reach a point to my utmost satisfaction.

The best thing I find about my life: No matter how filthy situations, events or people I deal with, my bounce back game is strong AF, stronger than many, and I don’t mean it by the show off part, I mean it about things considered valuable.

(Originally posted on 28th Dec, 2020)

Quotes and Thoughts.

Here are a few quotes and words that I wrote and live by. You may check out my page Your Choicest Lifestyle on instagram for more of such quotes. There are more than 350 original quotes on my page. For travel, lifestyle, food, selfies and original reels, do check my main profile page Preet.pi on instagram. I assure you, you won’t regret taking a look at both the accounts. Also, please check out the stories as well on my Preet.pi page.

THANK YOU FOR READING..โค

(4th july, 2021)

Vibrant in dark world.

Art reflects one's soul. ๐ŸŒบโค๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’›

It’s not easy

To stay vibrant

In a dark world,

Where the shadows try to eclipse

My mind,

Where I pay the price

For being kind,

But I choose

To rise

repeatedly

against the wind,

Against the grinding grain,

I hope one day it will be acknowledged

My efforts won’t go in vain.

(Copyrights reserved on both, words and digital artwork. Thank you for reading. ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’ซ๐ŸŒž๐ŸŒบโค๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿงก๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’™)

[23rd Sept, 2021]

Bloody red.

Not made to shirk away from

or give up on the right things,

I’ll lose my mind in anger

only when I’d put it on the wrong swings.

(First published on 12th oct, 2020)

Found..

What are you left with now??

Everything I had before I began thinking that I was losing everything.

What life is like when you are bullied and gaslighted.

https://cheriewhite.blog/2021/10/25/what-life-is-like-when-youre-bullied-and-gaslighted/

Read this brilliant article written by my fellow-blogger Cherie White. Her blog has many such informative and eye-opening blogs regarding bullying, harrassment and social stigmas. I love them all. They give me strength when I need it. I hope she will inspire you as well to stand up against bullies and stand your ground. Do visit her blog and check it all by yourself. โค

Quote: Intellect.

An Intellectual Person tries to understand different perspectives and then critically evaluates them ๐Ÿง 

A Fool laughs at everything he Fails to understand. ๐Ÿคก

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