DIGITAL-ART:CONNECTION

For some reasons,

we all are connected.

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I do differently..

They say “Date them all until one of them shows you he is serious”,

I say “Brozone them all until one of them shouts “I want to be your fucking husband !!”

*chaos versus clarity*

Crazy but it works 😜

An advice for Alpha females for marriage..

I want to give an advice to young women/girls who want to get married at some point in their life. Actually, there are many points that I want to discuss under this topic and you may also find many advices online as well as offline regarding marriage. But there is one point that I want to put some light on which is often ignored while considering a life partner.

If you are a woman who is ambitious, takes her own decisions, works her ass off, is a go-getter, and is a provider, in short, the one who has most of the qualities of an Alpha Female, you need to see the family structure of the man if you are interested in him for marriage or life partnership or relationship. I am saying this because I have seen this pattern a lot in society that when and if the females of the family in which a man has grown up, did not work in office, and were by nature-submissive, coy, and silent, that man is going to want the same from his life-partner sub-consciously. It doesn’t matter how much educated or modernised he became, the years (decades) of mental training he got from his family sub-consciously is not going to change even if he finds the otherwise for himself consciously. He would want you to be the same meek and coy woman. Your boundaries will be aggressive to him. Your desires and ambition will make him feel insecure and he would like to impose his dogmatic thinking upon you just like his family’s females were pressed upon and taught to abide by the thinking and orders of the men in his family. He cannot comprehend that you can Think and Do better than him. His insecurities will start acting up whenever you will point out at his flaws, even if done politely. He may even be envious of your work and power because he was conditioned in his psyche’s developmental stages that women are not the Alpha and are meant to be protected and guided only. He may point at your frankness as rudeness. For him, submissive silence is elegance and speaking your mind will be needed to be in a controlled manner according to his dictates.

There will be, most of the times, power struggle between you two because you are an Alpha female and he may feel powerless because of that, so he will try to over-power you to soothe his ill-conditioned mind, and then there might be fights, manipulation and even separation between you two.

What do you think-is it better not to engage with such a man or is it better to engage and then be forced to leave in the end?? Or you can be ultra-submissive just like his family’s females and give upon your own power and capabilities and ambition to soothe his fragile ego??

(PS: Don’t come here with your feminist or anti-feminist mentality regarding this post. It’s about a particular kind of a man. The propositions may be relative to patriarchy but I did not point out at that. This advice is solely for alpha females who also love with whole of their being, so, kindly, do not come with the contention that love is adjustment and all. Those are different topics. I intended to write exactly about a very small fraction of possibilities.)

Thank you for reading. 🙂

Millenial love.

Welcome to the arcade

Where feelings are sold

Without love.

Anxiety can be a stuck energy in body. How to tackle with it? (Personal experience)

I want to tell you something about anxiety. Anxiety is stuck in my backbone like it’s my life force and I won’t deny that I have to make movements like a snake or twirk or get patted on my back to shirk off that energy, or I can’t live peacefully for even an hour. Either it acts up in holding me in a loop of doing everything too fast and then in eruption of cranky mood, or I can’t do anything because of it feeling paralysed with over-thinking.

Does anything new happens that creates anxiety?? Yes, sometimes. But sometimes, it’s our old energy stuck inside of us that demands release whereas sometimes, it’s our neural pattern that creates similar anxiety in similar situations we face in the present, and sometimes, it’s our thoughts for the future that invite that energy to the fore because we had suppressed those thoughts about the future in the past and now we have to face them.

So, what can we do about it??

1. MOVE: yeah..Move your body, baby. (😜) any way you can. Play, dance, exercise,etc.

2. WRITE/SPEAK: Write or speak whatever thoughts come to your mind. Just blurt them out. Journal/record audio. After some time, read or listen to them and analyse which thoughts are too repetitive and what are their reasons.

3. GET A MASSAGE: Get a good deep tissue massage to release all that tense energy from your body, so that you don’t have to move like a snake randomly while trying to sleep (😌).

4. HYDRATION/PROPER NUTRITION: Last but not the least, have enough of fluids intake. Eat less sugar and salt. Take your nutrition supplements. Eat balanced diet.

5. RELAX: I just mean DO. NOT. RUSH. about anything. Plan and act on it but do not rush feeling like nothing went right if one out of ten things that you planned to do within a specified time gets a little delayed (One of the main reasons of my anxiety 🙄). Don’t be a control freak even if you want to be the controller of your own life only.

6. LET YOURSELF HEAL: Generally, when you are healing from something (be it anything), anxiety acts up over and over again, no matter how much you have advanced in healing. It’s OK. Nothing is wrong with you, it’s quite normal. Give yourself time, healing is always a long journey, and do try to follow above-mentioned points.

Thank you for reading. ❤🙂

Rules/no rules..

Poetry could be turned into a story

Love could be turned into a relationship

If we had followed the proper rules,

Because story or relationship has rules,

But poetry or love goes no where

But yes, it always stays there.

Know the difference of bonding.

When an outsider tries to be more important than a family member, you should make it very clear with your words or actions that they don’t mean shit in comparison to your close family member, no matter what and how your bond is with that outsider. You should not make a family member feel abandoned or alienated ever, you may be the only one that they look forward to for support. Outsiders really should know their limits.

(Originally posted on 10th Jan,2021)

Love/Relationships are a game for a Narcissist.

Some people will chase you only till you are interested in someone else. Their character is like that only. It satisfies their ego to get you out of love with someone else. When they succeed in doing so, it makes them feel like they are better than the one you loved or were interested in, but when they succeed in influencing your mind away from that loved person, they treat you like you never mattered. STAY WOKE ABOUT SUCH NARCISSISTS AND DON’T GIVE A FUCK TO THEM EVER, ONCE YOU HAVE A SINGLE EXPERIENCE LIKE THAT WITH ANYONE LIKE THAT.

Would you delete your social media account??- A VIEW-POINT

A post has been making rounds all over the social media platforms which asks “would you delete your social media account for your relationship??”

First of all, why is anyone so desperate to make someone delete the social media account?? It sounds quite fishy. Who doesn’t like to be entertained in the free time?? Is it really a benchmark to prove one’s dedication in a relationship. I think not. It’s actually quite manipulative to even ask such a thing. If the relationship is strong already, then social media should have nothing much to do with it.

Secondly, even if the one who has been asked to do so, deletes his/her accounts, what is the probability that the person who has asked about it is going to do the same?? Some people just want to control others with such difficult and impossibly set standards. The person asking or expecting this from their partner may as well make fake accounts, cheat on their partner all the time and expect their partner to stay oblivious about it.

It makes very little sense other than that.

Gone are the day when it was quite easy to live naturally, without having a presence on the internet. Even if one stays away from it for a long time, still, at some point of time, one may need presence over some web platform.

To be honest, mostly it is done by a narcissist to control their partner. Narcissists roam around freely, even on the internet, confining their partner in a very little world of happiness that they show them. It is all fake. They cheat on them but do not want their partner to know about it. So, they show off their partner as an ideal dedicated one who kept their relationship above everything else, so that their(narc’s) ego may get boosted as a result of having such an ideal best partner in front of the others and side-by-side their lurking into and tresspassing into others’ boundaries keep on happening without ever being caught by their partner.

Don’t fall prey to such stupid words. They don’t mean a thing. More importantly, if something doesn’t feel right, you do not need to do it and if your choices sabotage the relationship, the problem is the weakness of the relationship, not your choices which are quite normal according to your contemporary times.

Prayers help..

It works. It really does !! Trust me on this one.. Do not pray for a particular person; it’s just a part of attachment, not even love. You may pray to get a particular person but you may just attract them in your life for a short span that way. But if you pray like this, you will know who you exactly feel for and who you are meant to be with. Don’t even ask for the signs. Signs may be deceptive as we all behave in quite similar fashion or may do so in a short while. Just pray for your own soul to know the reality. And do not fear before and after that about letting go of anything or anyone not meant for you. Accept by heart that you have learnt your lessons and you just want to know and feel only for the one who you are meant to be with forever. YOU WILL KNOW, REALLY !