Experiencing Indirect Rumours and Gaslighting.

Rumours– We all are well aware of. But, I want to describe Indirect Rumours. When someone or some people try to make other people believe that something is/was said or done by you by adopting your behaviour style or communication style i.e. significantly becoming an imposter, yet not impersonating your identity as to name or photographs etc., they cause of Indirect Rumours.

The motive and intention is fraudulent. The imposter wants other people to think that all the psychopathic words and acts which that imposter does are being said and done by you. And if the people who are intended to be influenced into thinking that it’s you who is doing all the fraudulent and/or psychopathic deeds, get influenced thereby, against you, then the fraudulent imposter’s psychopathic acts keep on increasing as to scope of trying to affect your near and dear ones, over a long period of time, but with breaks in between, so that they may be indirectly rumoured into straining your character. It is done to affect those who know your style and behaviour and definitely are your known ones in any capacity like family, tertiary kins, former or current acquaintances, online links, etc.

The fraudster or imposter shows insane, aggressive and/or filthy behaviour through words most of the times, and the idea is to make your known ones believe the false information about you as true, which is given by that fraudulent imposter, indirectly throught social media. It doesn’t come under the category of libel and slander as your name is not taken or mentioned openly but your character is intended to seem like a pathological one.

You may think that it’s not a big deal, specially when it happens online. BUT let me beware you, it can be quite dangerous for you, as your relationships with other people may get strained, your character may be assassinated, and in case it’s only you who can figure out what wrong is going on, you may fall into acute stress and/or depression or may become psychologically dysfunctional in the long run AND The intention and aim of such psychopathic imposter is just that..

Personal Experience: This happens with me a lot often and the time I talk about it openly to expose that psychopath, the source from where this kind of psychopathic acts are done, is made to look and sound normal, so that the other people, who are known to me, may think that I over-react. This is an acute form of Gaslighting, which I am actually going through since last few years. It has taken criminal stance as well. Once I also reported it to the police but then took back the complaint for personal reasons. Now-a-days, I tend to ignore and block the sources from where the imposter tries to spread ‘indirect rumours’ about me, But, some day I will definitely take solid action. I can clearly point out at the sources from which this mental and social abuse is happening. So, it won’t take me or the police much to gather all the proofs.

It’s all fun and games until someone drags you to court and you are going downhill after that and end up in jail for years, lonely, going mad, with your own pathological filthy mind, being the biggest burden on yourself rather than a burden on innocent people.

Lonely

I like it when you are lonely. That is my favourite place for you. When we first meet if you make mention of feeling lonely, or send a self-pitying tweet decrying your loneliness then I am straight on to you. You may as well have taken a knife to your chest, slit it open […]

Lonely

The exact thinking of a narcissist. I have not seen a single victim whose friends or family have not been reached by a narc or whom narc did not surround with his own friend circle. You can actually visualise a normal innocent person standing inside of a circle of a narc’s friends, unable to escape ever. The boundary of the enclosure is adjusted according to the behaviour of the victim. If the victim acts according to the narc, giving him all the narcissistic supply, then the area of the circle is widened, so that the victim can feel like having freedom. But be wary, it is just a false sense of freedom, the victim just doesn’t know where the boundary is set by the narc but slowly and steadily (which may take years) the victim starts feeling that something is wrong, like somebody is pushing triggering buttons and pulling emotional strings when the victim does anything with a free will. Some victims never get to know who that person is. Those who get to know are then discarded by the narc in ways incomprehensible and shocking ways (a different topic) to the victim like a rug got pulled out below the feet. If the victim is impressive to everyone but meek, coy and obedient to the narcissist, this is the perfect dynamic to the narc. If somebody does not show off or others do not know about their achievements, then discarding happens instantly. If somebody is impressive to others and the narc as well, then Love Bombing (a different topic) begins in the initial stages to attract the victim; in the later stages, to pull the victim back into that enclosure of narc and his flying monkeys. Beware, some so-called flying monkeys do not even know that they are being so. Some may be genuine people intricately manipulated by the narc and his similar narcissist allies (different topic). The victims do not get to know from where they are being attacked mentally, emotionally and sometimes physically as well, that’s gaslighting (different topic). Gaslighting the victim inside that enclosure is the perfect dynamic in which either narc can control the victim completely by giving a little bit of attention or affection by himself or by his flying monkeys here and there; or during devaluation the victim is called “crazy” or “psychopath” or “anti-social” or will be called names whatever can work to hit the psyche of the victim to make the victim feel lonely, that too, IN WAYS IN WHICH ANY THIRD PERSON CANNOT KNOW THAT IT’S THE NARC WHO IS SAYING ALL THAT (Hiding his identity during all the criminalistic and psychopathic activities is a narcissist’s biggest trait), and then all those flying monkeys are pulled back in order to make the victim that there is something wrong in their behaviour and to make the victim feel lonely. Even if the victim asks a few of the allies of narc on suspicion of something wrong happening, they try to shun off the victim’s voice and ask “WHAT’S WRONG WITH YOU??” No wonder the victim will be called crazy for hundreds of times, but Never Publically because that will actually spoil the Fake Image maintained by the narcissist and those who have been helping him under the guise of his fake image will stop helping him for controlling the victim. The whole idea is to control the victim anyhow so that due to loneliness, the victim runs to the narcissist most of the times for support (or to his flying monkeys).

ADVICE:

●Take the cues of being manipulated. Observe when some of your near and dear ones begin to act out of their character that you used to know before.

●Observe keenly before and after what action of whom you get to have reactions from whom and with what tone.

●Observe who jokes in what tone at what time and who questions you about which things (what is unacceptable to you is the key here).

●VERY IMPORTANT: Talk to a trusted family member, as well as a friend, and if possible (which is the best option) talk to a psychotherapist ept in behavioural therapies and who knows about narcissism as well.

●Talk about it openly. Break the chain/circle created by the narcissist around you. Do not trust anyone unless and until somebody tells you the truth that you want to know. Test them by asking about things that you already know and you know that they also know, then you’ll know who is lying and is a part of that circle.

●Do not care about your image. They are still a very few people who maintain a fake image, and you are real. The world is quite big, you will find your tribe some day.

●Once you know who is the culprit and who are the allies, do not change your mind of removing those people from your life. The narcissist never changes as it is an incurable mental disease. Some fluctuations may occur with time and circumstances but that’s about it; the allies are either narcissists themselves, not that much to you though and even in case they are not narcs, they are not your well-wishers, they are narc’s friends, and those who became his allies under the guise of his innocense cannot be trusted as they can be easily manipulated by anyone and as a result can help anyone in manipulating you as well.

●Stay strong. It’s okay to be alone than being in a bad company. Weak people are often found in groups. Even if your precious time got ruined in the narcissistic cycle, it’s still better than ruining your whole life by going back to the same people undeserving of anything from your side.

(First published on 27th sept, 2020)

Do Narcissists VENT?

I love it when narcissists Vent openly on social media, for a small fraction of time, it feels like tables have turned. The way the victims want to talk their heart out, wanting others to know what they are going through or have gone through, and still being unable to let it all out because the intensity of the abuse they feel is unmatched with any words or any expression of it, it finally feels, that the relentless banter or the self-expression or uncontrolled trail of arguments by the narcissists against the psychologists or against the people who want to enlighten others against narcissism and bullying, is the way of narcissists for venting it all out about what they have or had gone through.

But.. Let me clear this. It’s a HOAX. Narcissists never vent. They do not have that much emotional depth in them. They do not think straight about how others may or may not feel about them. Actually, narcissists have nothing to do with what effect they may have upon anyone because of their actions. They love to abuse secretly. All of their so-called venting out is just a form of manipulation, the manipulation for everyone to see how bad or evil is a psychologist who has been making innocent people aware of the nature of a narcissist, and the trial of manipulation of the psychologist himself/herself so that they may think that the narc is innocent. So, narcissists do not truly vent regarding the real implication of the word, they just make it look like venting to gather attention and divert others’ attention from the real venting of the victim(s).

(26th Oct, 2021)

PSYCHOPATH UGLY STALKER.

How fast a LOSER BITCH makes fake account to just show innate ugliness by commenting obnoxious shit on my blog and facebook is so far the craziest thing I have ever come across. DUMBASS BURNT BITCH. 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

PS- A bitch is gender neutral.

I am saying this because after being Butt-hurt after commenting obnoxious shit, having no logic in it, as a reply to my comment on a post on facebook, this ugly bitch just commented on my below-given post “What a piece of crap“.

The title of the commentor was MORE LOGICAL AND EDUCATED THAN YOU.

I can’t stop laughing at that.. LMAOOOOO 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 You can see how STUPID a BULLY can be, not to forget to mention the innate ugliness and low IQ stupidity that will stay forever in that BITCH.

Experience against a psychopath.

If a psychopath has a crush on me, I am not the problem at all.

Psychopaths do have unattainable goals be it any person; it aggrandizes their fragile ego in case they succeed in getting that person and to get that high/reach that peak, they keep chasing that person hiding the agenda from everyone and even using their own so-called friends without even letting them know and those poor fellows innocently do everything on the whims of that psychopath.

I have strong intuition. Most of the times, as I have judged anyone, it has proved to be true with time and sometimes it has begun being obvious to others as well. So, definitely, my mind works really well, it’s only an envious psychopath who tries to twist things about n around me so that others find me as the problematic one.

Steer mindfully.

YOU DON’T GO TO A MENTAL ASYLUM TO ONE UP WITH THE MENTALLY IMBALANCED PEOPLE THERE, SO SHALL BE YOUR GENERAL STRATEGY TO STEER YOUR WAY IN THE WORLD. YOU DON’T KNOW WHO CAN BE AN UNDIAGNOSED PSYCHOPATH IN YOUR WAY.

Stance with a third party in my so-called relationships.

Some women (the other party in case of a guy) be always thinking that they be winning in getting him, being completely oblivious to the fact that how relieving it has always been to me to get rid of such a nasty burden from my life. I have never competed with any such woman. I never compete in and for relationships. “The guy who is a psychopath, makes you feel once in a while like he gave himself (as a Trophy) to you, in a competition created by him, so that he can take advantage of you and the reason here is that he knows how weak you are mentally and how much you need validation even from a piece of shit like him. Thus, he keeps you tied to his little finger, pushing you n pulling your emotional strings, whenever he desires as he knows how weak you are who can dance to a tunes of his stupidity, over-cleverness n psychopathy. I may be exasperated for the fact that he be still hovering in my life directly or indirectly to influence my mind, either trying to connect back to me or just to get some attention (if not positive, then negative) or to spoil my life in any way so that he can win in his self-created one-sided competition. That exasperation which is actually due to the reason that he doesn’t get out of my life is portrayed to you that I want him but he is coming back to you, to make you look like the winner all the while thinking that you are a bloody foolish woman who is dancing to his whims n caprices or he may make you feel like his Queen/wife/love only for a short time (a very short time) until he gets another woman target or gets one back from the past who left him.”

What serious psychopaths/narcs do?

1. Hide their real identity.

2. Instigate/provoke certain behavior in other person.

3. Try to confuse the other person.

4. Upon getting a reaction out of that other person due to that confusion created, call that person a psychopath.

5. Gossip about it to other people or make open accusations about the reactions.

If you fight well with the psychopath, you will be considered a psychopath; and if you get emotional, you will be sympathised with considering you weak mentally; and if you ignore, you will be instigated/provoked again after an interval of time and maybe in a different way.

Stay alert. If you won’t keep these things in your mind, it will be very easy for a psychopath or narcissist to manipulate you and/or people known to you. It’s very easy to be provoked but consider that the one who has hidden his identity is already a Coward, and who has gossipped or gathered others to discuss you or your reactions is Mentally Weak.

Filthy fake freaks.

Those who love to see you on your lowest

If you are not with them

And at your best

Only if you are with them

Are a few of the worst creatures born on earth,

They fake goodness when a third person is observing or is involved

Otherwise it’s just filth from them being shed upon you that you can sense,

And it continues every time you reject them for their fakeness.

The only stance.

If they measure your love based on how much jealous/sad/negative you can/do feel without them or due to their actions,

Then, first of all, pity on their mentality;

Secondly, they shall go to hell.