Lessons in your 30s about your 20s.

Lessons you will learn in your 30s about your twenties:

1. Partying hard is important but working harder is even more important.
2. Planning in your early twenties about your next 20 years could be life changing.
3. Go with the flow is the stupidest and useless concept, specially in career.
4. Knowledge gained in twenties never goes in vain.
5. It’s better to build a body in your twenties that can sustain anything in your later life for decades. Eating clean and healthy, working out really hard, getting sunshine and rain, breathing fresh air, etc. regularly could put you above most of the folks of your age who were into eating a lot of junk food, consuming alcohol, smoking, etc.
6. Those stupid crushes were nothing but a distraction.
7. Making connections just for the sake of career is really important.
8. Strategic expenditure and investments could put you ahead 90% of the people in 30s.
9. You could save a lot of wasted time and energy you spent on fake people, fake relationships, fake friendships.
10. You could be at least 10 times better if you had started preparing 10-12 months before any expected opportunity for your success and could succeed as well.
11. One career is not enough. One source of income is not enough.
12. Anybody can switch up on you, no matter who; even closest of family members for whom you may always fight.
13. People really didn’t matter and should not have mattered as much as you thought they did.
14. Who thinks what about you and your actions does not matter at all when you have reasons for each of your action and you are moving with the right and ethical purpose in mind.
15. Choosing your battles wisely is ultra-important. Letting some people live in their lies, misery, and stupidity, and going on with your head held high could save you a lot of mental energy.
16. Getting credits and appreciation for the work done by you was so necessary, be it in any form- reciprocated favour, certificates, money, or expanding the word about you.
17. Waiting for your love to be fulfilled by the other person as well kept you stuck for a long time. You could rather find the right partner and love could happen later on between you two.
18. Hoeing around many people kept you away from the best one for you, that you could have, that could be life changing for you for the better.
19. Humility and kindness were important but you should not have let people walk over you or use you or your sources.
20. Expecting anything from others is like blocking your own efficiency.
21. World runs on give and take; and people would keep on taking if you are a giver without boundaries.
22. You live only once is the utterly non-sense concept. You actually die only once and can live multiple lives and get a taste of different cultures, careers, people (as friends or acquaintances) but in a systematic manner. There is no point in spoiling your life though YOLO.
23. The fear of missing out is just a concept driven out of peer pressure. You never missed out on anything when you were completely sure that you didn’t want that thing or event to happen at that time.
24. Life is too short. Never leave an opportunity to speak your mind. Express emotions and let others know your thoughts without any fear of mis-judgements. 95-99% of the people misjudged your silence anyway.
25. Ignoring your creative side for the sake of your logical side and rational career could have made you feel frustrated for years.
26. You didn’t have to prove yourself to any single person on this planet about anything.
27. Learning skills were important but are always overly hyped. If you had taken enough time in understanding the working of anything, practicing it could take very little time. Studying and educating yourself intensively as well as extensively over your area of interest could really lead you towards expertise in it.
28. Jump first, think later is a stupid phrase. Thinking a lot before jumping into something could save you years or your entire life And from feelings like guilt, regret, and resentment. Don’t be driven by id.
29. One partner was really enough. You just didn’t have it in you to stay loyal or to be patient to find the right one.
30. Putting yourself first is never selfish. When you do help in terms of work, therapy, money, out of kindness, people start feeling entitled to it. People on top positions call it charity actually.

A proud daughter of a man of many skills ❤

A few people think that I am over-qualified whereas I still feel under-qualified, and it’s not because of any outsider; actually, my father was a highly-qualified scholar. He had 3 graduation degrees that were in science, arts, and law, each, n 3 post-grad degrees, in physics, english, and political-science, each. He also wanted to do post-grad in law, with me, but destiny had other plans and he succumbed to throat cancer, and thus, I also couldn’t carry on with my studies for the next one year. But then, I started with post-grad in political science as it was the only options left for me at that time and I was quite interested in it as well. After that, I am still studying, although I had a gap of one and half year in studies due to lockdown and changing areas of research.

Coming back to my father. He was studying law when he had 2 kids and was performing his official duties as well as he was doing job at that time. I mean, how could he manage everything so effortlessly. So much of hard-work on his part stayed unrecognized. He was too humble to believe and many people usually under-estimated him because of that, although those who actually knew him had a blind trust on him and his capabilities, and that’s what he actually deserved. Not to forget to mention, his level of knowledge, both static and current. Asked him about anything, he had the right answers most of the times, in the age when there was no internet, google, wikipedia.. Actually, he used to read 2-3 newspapers first thing in the morning, right after refreshing, Aaaaand books in the fields of novels, ayurveda, science n tech, astrology, etc. AND how can I not mention his talents?? He was really (I mean REALLY!!) good in cooking, sewing, carpentry in terms of repairing any furniture, sketching, gardening, playing musical instrument..in which sketching was truly exceptional as he could draw any still life object within 2-3 minutes with fast and light-strokes and all he needed was any paper and any kind of pencil..

Whole of my life I saw him doing things and asked myself where do you stand?? Yeah.. kind of inferiority complex I could have but instead, he proved to be an inspiration for me to always do and learn more and more.

Life is not forever, but the legacy you leave as a learner and doer is indefinite and forever.

Are you really humble or you just have no idea what you are doing in life?

People with vision become more humble when they succeed in the manifestation of their vision as they know how many struggles it took them to reach there. People with useless unhealthy ego become humble only when they fail as they are left with no other choice as they become perplexed or stay stuck in that place having no to little vision about what to do next.

It’s not only a difference between vision and ego. It’s also a difference between dominant types with a vision and submissive types having no vision. The latter ones usually run towards small-term and superficial goals like “I want to be famous”, “I want to earn money”, “I want to be popular” etc. and if you ask them exactly what they want to do and how, they usually have no clear answer. The former ones the those who have a long-term and large scale vision. They do not go behind short-term dopamine boosters. They are more humble when they keep on succeeding as they know that their success is just one of the steps to fulfil their vision, and their long-term vision is not only the self-serving one like those so-called failed humble ones. Even when they fail, they cannot leave their warrior spirit which the latter submissive types with no vision get intimidated by and can’t digest.

Last but not the least, my views seem to be arrogant to every hypocrite who is humble only when he/she is failing or losing, and uber egoistic n never humble when winning.

Abstract digital art..

“Inexplicable roots of connection between two souls” -My Interpretation About This Painting.

I will be very glad to know how you are going to perceive it. This is one of my most abstract paintings which I just painted within seconds (maybe it took one minute) and didn’t even think for once what I was doing or what I was intending to do; so, there is some unconscious n subconscious meaning behind it.

(First published on 19th July, 2021)

Difference in reaction

Difference in reaction

Not love.

Please don’t tell me how much you self-sabotaged yourself for anybody,

It’s just a form of self abuse;

And if you cannot love yourself enough not to self-sabotage

Then you cannot love anyone else, it’s true,

And to me

showing your weaknesses in the name of love is of no use.

(First published on 29th oct, 2020)

Loads in depression.

Sometimes, your biggest achievement is to talk while you have no mental energy to even speak a word,

do all of your works of the day while you have no physical energy either,

And to smile when all you feel is emptiness,

To have hope while all you want is to scream and cry out loud not knowing what to do about what’s bothering you.

(Originally posted on 12th june,2020, when I was in severe depression)

Grateful for your presence.

This post is just to thank everyone here who stays patient with me. Sometimes, I cannot interact via comments because I feel shut down due to personal reasons n find it difficult to talk to anyone. Sometimes, you all have to deal with my negative posts involving anguish described in anger n rage. My family as well has to deal with my furious nature. Although, it has reduced drastically in comparison to the last year but still I feel that nobody else than me deserves to deal with those vibes. The darkness should stay with the person to whom it belongs and be released too in a healthy way. I find writing and painting as the mediums to release the negativity that engulfs me, from which I am unable to release it through Art as I can only paint good stuff. It’s only through writing that I can release my worst of dark emotions, and it’s really very important for me to release anger, otherwise I get sick physically as well (fever n low immunity). So, I just want to thank you all (including my family) for being there in my lows as well, and not only in the times I write something good having some good vibes in it, full of love and beauty. You all are Amazing Ones..

Love and Blessing to You..💜💖

Quote: Intellect.

An Intellectual Person tries to understand different perspectives and then critically evaluates them 🧠

A Fool laughs at everything he Fails to understand. 🤡

A friendly reminder.

I am sorry if you stay in flight or fight mode and also think that it’s your fault. Just a friendly reminder that it’s not your fault and you also can feel safe. Just change the people around you and choose the right ones who can make you feel safe physically and mentally.