Robbing the veracity of victim’s truth. Tactics of a narc-part-3

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OFFENSIVE AND DRAINING NARCISSISTIC, INEFFICIENT AND TOXIC WOMAN.

I have Ideas, Stamina and Courage in Abundance,

But toxicity of a narcissistic crap drains me like nothing else and is intolerable.

(I had made the video of my digital artwork and had uploaded it on my youtube channel today morning, and one reels on instagram in the evening of a different artwork, THE IDEA which has been DIRECTLY COPIED by a Toxic Woman. You may think that I am complaining, and yes, I am, and it is because IDEAS ARE PRECIOUS. Ideas make patents and copyrights. MY IDEAS BEING STOLEN, that too, in ARTWORK, which is considered A Unique Area, is outrightly OFFENSIVE. That woman, Kritika, wants to Offend many of my Boundaries, that too, to annoy me and seem like a Better One Subliminally. But, ENCROACHING UPON MY IDEAS IS OUTRIGHTLY AN OFFENCE. I Could Use Filthy Words As Well But That Woman And Her Mind Is A PURE FILTH On Its Own, No Matter How Much She Fakes Her Behaviour, Her Disgusting Mentality Is Quite Obvious To Those Whose Boundaries She offends And To Those Who Can Observe Objectively.)

DIGITAL PAINTING VIDEO ON YOUTUBE

INSTAGRAM REELS LINK

These two are the proofs that I did it first and the ideas have been stolen somehow.

Remaining stance.

To handle secretive criminals like you I am left with only two options, either be a criminal myself or be a law enforcing authority, and I am definitely not going to be a criminal, but I really pray that people like you never get the opportunity to have that authority. I abhor criminals and you are one of them; don’t think that I am making this up. I have observed a lot and I know which legal provision applies where in your sneaky shit.

Robbing the veracity of victim’s truth. Tactics of a narc-part-3

“You are not sounding good.”

“You are miserable.”

“You cannot live peacefully.”

“You have inner work to do and improve upon what you say.”

“You are bitter.”

“You know only fight.”

“Spare me. I can’t take it anymore.”

“Leave me alone. I don’t want to listen to you.”

“ALL OF YOUR FRIENDS CONSIDER YOU MAD.”

A few responses of a narcissist when you begin to speak your truth; because when you do not share anything to anyone, the narcissist has an upper hand over you as he can tell anything to anyone about you, about your relationship with the narc, and your relation with others. It’s quite easy to brainwash others when you stay silent. When you begin to share your side of the story, that is the time when the narc pulls this kind of tactics to break you, shun you and silence your voice. It will never be done with facts. It will always be done with emotionally and socially acceptable manipulation in which your behavioural standard is first of all lowered down by getting a reaction out of you after giving you sly remarks on your work, ethics, behaviour, character etc. about which nobody or very few people (narc’s joinders) know, and when your behaviour comes out as sometimes socially unacceptable, then the narc uses this kind of manipulation to demean you and to lower the veracity of your reality in the eyes of others by showing them that there is a problem in you, not in the narc.

Always remember that the one telling the truth in a dynamic with a narc always sounds crazy, and it’s easy for the narc to prove it because the victim generally stays silent for a very long time due to various reasons (which I will discuss later) and when it becomes almost impossible to hide the truth, then the emotions explode intensely which makes others feel like the victim is imbalanced and of which narc always takes advantage.

How can you know who is lying here??

Ask for the explanation in details about the reality of each side from each side. Most often, the narc will reply with “I don’t know” or “I am wrong. I accept that. Please leave me alone.” or “She/he is crazy.” Or “I have better things to do. She/he needs help.” This kind of responses are given because the narc never has clarity of thought and those (narcs) who have, they have planned every step on how to bind the other person in a mental loop of abusive action and intense reaction. The explanation will never be factual from the narc’s side, mostly emotional, with distorted facts involving mostly the blame game or pity party.

Victim feels attacked for years and stays silent but when finally reacts, is considered insane, bitter, or narc and all the time when the victim stays silent, staying away from people due to depression or anxiety or paranoia that anybody can be an acquaintance of the narc, then the victim is considered self-centered and selfish (again the blame game).

My advice here is that, if you ever feel abused mentally or emotionally, do not stay silent about it. Talk about it to somebody trustworthy, and never to anyone in common relation to you and the narc. The more you will delay the reactions, the more you will sound crazy because at some point other people will also think that why you did not say anything at the time of abuse, and then you cannot explain enough.

Tactic of Triangulation used by narcissist.

“And now begins the game of Triangulation.”

I was wrong to call a pure narcissist a toxic empath when I can see clearly all the aspects of narcissism in the same person. Triangulation means comparing two people in which the one who is praised is used by the narcissist to demean the other person when that ‘other person’ does not adhere to the stupidity, toxicity and malicious behaviour or demands of the narcissist. This is done to lower the self-confidence of one of two people compared. You will mostly see a narcissist jumping from one person to another, praising highly one person one day and when that same person gets to know about the narcissist’s malice and call out about it or expose that behaviour, then that person is met with the Tactic of Triangulation.

How to recognise a narc and reduce his influence.

A narcissist always thinks that he is a very influential person, specially in the life of somebody, whom he has been trying to manipulate. But it’s all in the narc’s mind. If you are not mentally strong, then you might get influenced and manipulated, and begin to think how and what the narc wants to show you about yourself, both positive and negative, depending upon his wish and demanding circumstances. One thing to keep in mind is that it is very rare when a narc does something good to the other person that nobody gets to know about. Generally, at least one person knows what ‘good deed’ the narc is doing, so that that person can back up the narc’s innocense and goodness whenever it may require in the future and those good deeds will be related to the person whom he has been manipulating or trying to manipulate secretly. You will really feel something creepy about a comment coming out of nowhere. That in a way gives a shock to the person’s psyche if that person is not well educated in this topic. The more the shocks with such instances, the easier it is to confuse that person. But if you are strong minded and know who you are, you may get shocked for a while but will return back to your normal pretty soon knowing that it’s just a technique of projection or maybe pure hatred or jealousy for you. Also, keep this in mind that if the narc is well educated in this topic, then it is highly difficult to point out at his techniques because the narc generally can easily prove his controlled group that the victim is the narc and is projecting it onto him. In short, the narc makes victim the narc.

So, how to recognize who is actually the narc and what to do about it??

1. Do not trust anyone easily. Observe the behaviour closely. Always keep the proof whenever anything suspicious happens like a hateful comment or gesture. Getting or keeping proof is not feasible always because you cannot measure anyone’s actions towards you all the time. Just be alert after ignoring such instances a couple of times, and then either take screenshots, if it’s happened online or drive somebody’s attention instantly towards that person if it happens through gestures.

2. Talk about it. Talk about it, even if you think that it is only your doubt. Somebody else may be knowing better about your situation. Take professional help if it goes out of control i.e. if it has begun putting stake at your mental proper functioning.

3. Know yourself and stay assertive about it. If you don’t know yourself, your general and specific traits and behaviour generally and particularly then it is very easy to brain-wash you into judging yourself as the narc wants you to see yourself. Know yourself really well. Do not take either praise nor criticism to your heart and head easily. Do not give the narc the satisfaction that his action affected you otherwise it will surely repeat. If you can get swayed with praises, you can get shocked with criticism, and a narc always praise you a lot in the beginning phases of interaction to put you on a padestal so that when he discards you he can shock you with his criticism all along, and in such a condition, you won’t be able to believe yourself and would rather believe the narc’s criticism because once he had put you on a padestal, with a doubtful thinking that maybe he is right and you must have done something wrong that you could not infer. Be assertive about your truth. Preferably, keep a journal about the doubtful person’s actions too.

4. Try to run away from the ‘Testing situations’. A narc will always try to test you in front of others. You will realise that it will happen in the set created by the narc, be it online or in real. There will be somebody or some people reading your conversation or (in real) watch your actions. It will sound very casual to those people. But the narc knows that he is testing you. He will ask you questions that only he knows that are going to put you in trouble or going to create a doubt about you in some sense. That motive is also known only to the narc or maybe one or two close allies (called flying monkeys in psychology). Always remember that the set has been created by the narc and if you are not having anyone on your side, then you have to leave the situation as soon as possible rather than proving your point because in other words, the victim does not need to prove a crime to the criminal and his accomplices, the victim needs to run away from the situation to get the help from the right people. Never try to prove the narcissism of the narc to the narc, because first of all, a narcissist does not see any fault in his behaviour, so he may say that you are projecting your insecurities onto him. And, even if he becomes apologetic about an obvious wrong behaviour, it may again happen to you in a different setting and after an interval of time but you will know that the same thing is happening to you. Actually, the narc does not change his ways; he just changes people and situations and settings and time (victims as well).

5. Ignore as much as you can. It is also possible that that person is not a narc, and is just another occasional or chronically toxic person. Some toxic empaths also behave like a narc. You need to ignore this kind of behaviour for a few times in the beginning, while still confiding about it to somebody highly trustworthy. And secondly, when everything is said and done, it is your neccessity to ignore the narc completely if that person is still bothering you or interfering in your life. If your life is getting influenced because of any kind of manipulation, then call out, otherwise keep it in mind that when that person becomes meaningless for you, that person’s actions also become meaningless.

Gaslighting.

A narcissist will always give you ultimatums and judgements about your isolation from others(in case he has already discarded you, otherwise the ultimatum will be about leaving you). For example, saying things like “You will be left alone in the end and nobody is going to love you”, etc. etc. A narc thinks that he has become god and whatever he’d say or wish, will happen. And he does so in a way and from that place from where nobody else than you and him can know about it, so that when you talk about it to a third person he can say that you are just suspicious. This is referred to as Gaslighting. Watch the movie ‘Gaslight’ if you don’t like to read much. It has been depicted in that movie quite well. This is basically to weaken somebody’s mental strength, so that one begins to doubt himself/herself and ultimately the narc can take advantage of it and make the victim his puppet.

A narc always has allies.

A big trait of narcissism lies in having allies. You will not see a single narcissistic person doing everything alone, speaking up and standing alone. A narc will always have one or the other person to back them up or their stance or story, to gaslight the victim, because the more the witnesses, the more it looks real, though in reality it is all made up to save oneself from the shame of being exposed. The victim is usually tried to be broken mentally, considering his/her truth as the illusion because the victim generally does not have the proof to show to anyone, and anyway to whom will the victim try to prove anything when the narc has already isolated him/her from everyone to whom the victim can connect or tell the truth. By the time, the victim gets to know the truth, the narc already has many people on his/her side to witness how good he/she is (the ideal person anyone can ever know who has no human weakness). Planning in social dealing is the narc’s forte. Not many of his good actions will go unnoticed and bad ones noticed and all the bad deeds will be covered up by his allies. And just in case, a few of the innocent allies will get to know the truth, they cannot do anything about it because they have already got involved into something wrong and thus out of guilt cannot say anything about it.

Just in case, the narc is losing allies, he/she begins to triangulate the victim with somebody else. Here, the comparisons begin which the normal person does not prefer. (Triangulation is a different topic).

Truth of a nasty mastermind

One can feel like a mastermind,

Trying every whim with every sullen desire,

Inaugurating chaos and sliding through it like a snake,

Escaping every sight but keeping prying eyes on every person around,

Who believes a lot in make,

Trying to be a leader, showing facundity hiding ruthlessness,

A raising voice howsoever slight can he try to always suppress;

The mischief committed,

The people harmed,

The hearts broken,

The minds disturbed,

In his falsity he never did falter,

Trying to look like a saviour,

He proved to be my and many others’ halter.

“Shed your filthy facade damn it”

Even if I shout, cry n show angst,

He will say that I am just throwing a fit;

People like this have many accomplices around,

to which someone mentally weak feels bound;

But here I am and the universe with me,

How much more can he make me lonely?

To a loner who stays with the universe in touch,

That filthy mastermind can’t cause harm much,

No matter how much a sick person keeps it curtailed,

Universe has its own way for the truth to be unfurled.