Lessons in your 30s about your 20s.

Lessons you will learn in your 30s about your twenties:

1. Partying hard is important but working harder is even more important.
2. Planning in your early twenties about your next 20 years could be life changing.
3. Go with the flow is the stupidest and useless concept, specially in career.
4. Knowledge gained in twenties never goes in vain.
5. It’s better to build a body in your twenties that can sustain anything in your later life for decades. Eating clean and healthy, working out really hard, getting sunshine and rain, breathing fresh air, etc. regularly could put you above most of the folks of your age who were into eating a lot of junk food, consuming alcohol, smoking, etc.
6. Those stupid crushes were nothing but a distraction.
7. Making connections just for the sake of career is really important.
8. Strategic expenditure and investments could put you ahead 90% of the people in 30s.
9. You could save a lot of wasted time and energy you spent on fake people, fake relationships, fake friendships.
10. You could be at least 10 times better if you had started preparing 10-12 months before any expected opportunity for your success and could succeed as well.
11. One career is not enough. One source of income is not enough.
12. Anybody can switch up on you, no matter who; even closest of family members for whom you may always fight.
13. People really didn’t matter and should not have mattered as much as you thought they did.
14. Who thinks what about you and your actions does not matter at all when you have reasons for each of your action and you are moving with the right and ethical purpose in mind.
15. Choosing your battles wisely is ultra-important. Letting some people live in their lies, misery, and stupidity, and going on with your head held high could save you a lot of mental energy.
16. Getting credits and appreciation for the work done by you was so necessary, be it in any form- reciprocated favour, certificates, money, or expanding the word about you.
17. Waiting for your love to be fulfilled by the other person as well kept you stuck for a long time. You could rather find the right partner and love could happen later on between you two.
18. Hoeing around many people kept you away from the best one for you, that you could have, that could be life changing for you for the better.
19. Humility and kindness were important but you should not have let people walk over you or use you or your sources.
20. Expecting anything from others is like blocking your own efficiency.
21. World runs on give and take; and people would keep on taking if you are a giver without boundaries.
22. You live only once is the utterly non-sense concept. You actually die only once and can live multiple lives and get a taste of different cultures, careers, people (as friends or acquaintances) but in a systematic manner. There is no point in spoiling your life though YOLO.
23. The fear of missing out is just a concept driven out of peer pressure. You never missed out on anything when you were completely sure that you didn’t want that thing or event to happen at that time.
24. Life is too short. Never leave an opportunity to speak your mind. Express emotions and let others know your thoughts without any fear of mis-judgements. 95-99% of the people misjudged your silence anyway.
25. Ignoring your creative side for the sake of your logical side and rational career could have made you feel frustrated for years.
26. You didn’t have to prove yourself to any single person on this planet about anything.
27. Learning skills were important but are always overly hyped. If you had taken enough time in understanding the working of anything, practicing it could take very little time. Studying and educating yourself intensively as well as extensively over your area of interest could really lead you towards expertise in it.
28. Jump first, think later is a stupid phrase. Thinking a lot before jumping into something could save you years or your entire life And from feelings like guilt, regret, and resentment. Don’t be driven by id.
29. One partner was really enough. You just didn’t have it in you to stay loyal or to be patient to find the right one.
30. Putting yourself first is never selfish. When you do help in terms of work, therapy, money, out of kindness, people start feeling entitled to it. People on top positions call it charity actually.

Happy Healing :)

When you are used to present a good humoured self in front of others, others think that you don’t feel any pain, but, nevertheless, it’s a great way to deal with any kind of pain/injury/wounds. Only the strong ones have this capacity.

Are you really an Over-Thinker??

People who have the tendency to or the habit of jumping to conclusions often call and categorise themselves as ‘Over-Thinkers‘. I am sorry to break it to you lovely people, but, you are not Over-thinkers; you are actually ‘Under-thinkers‘.

Over-thinking barely has to do with jumping to conclusions without collecting all the sufficient facts of the situation and without considering all the necessary facets of that situation/event. Over-thinkers, in fact, re-consider all the facts and facets of anything despite having readily available conclusions, in front of them, drawn by someone else.

Dualities can thrive.

Whenever in doubt between multiple options, just remind yourself that most of the times it’s possible to go with all of them. It’s about calming your anxiety about those things or virtues first.

Want to reach top of the mountains at work as well as dive deep into the depth of oceans of emotions?? We can.. 🙂

Change in nature..

As much as I am growing up or growing older, I am going back to my nature as it was in my childhood. You never know, when all that shit happens, whether you are becoming a different new person or just coming back home to yourself..

(See tags to know what I mean by my nature.)

Commitment issues?

With me, people did not have commitment issues.. People had “you seem too good to be true, let me test and exhaust you” issues..

How to buy products- Personal overview based on experience.

How I do prefer to buy products in any category is something I want to describe in this blog. To begin with, I am really well balanced between thrifty and extravagant whdn it comes to spending money. If something of good quality is available and can be bought in Rs. 10, I won’t buy it from a costly brand for Rs. 100 only because I have money; and, if something is available for Rs. 1000 in the market and I don’t like its quality, I’ll buy the similar thing for Rs. 10,000 which is of good quality, I won’t buy a product of lesser cost just because it is available in the market and everyone is buying it.

You can see people generally going with the crowd when it comes to purchasing products, it’s never the same with me. I do not like to follow the crowd and I won’t even buy something just because someone said that it’s a good one and recommended it to me. I do my own research before buying anything and I don’t buy things until and unless I absolutely need them. Yes, there are very few exceptions to this rule of necessity in my life, and those are some things that I really want(ed) to purchase, be it any luxurious product or productive ones. Also, when it comes to the technological productive items like mobile or laptop, I really don’t like to compromise at any level. My first step in buying those products is to search for the topmost three models available in the market at that time alongwith with the top-level products about to be released shortly during that time. Then I search various techie geek websites to compare their specifications, and then, I buy the best one available. I hate to buy just ‘any level’ mobile or laptop from a costly brand, because honestly, the lower level product of costly brands have very mediocre specifications, and if you search well enough, you can find much better products in the same range of cost from an economic brand or say, a not-so-costly brand. So, it’s never a good deal to buy something outdated just to show-off that you bought it from such a costly brand. Here, I am pointing out mainly at Samsung and Apple products. I would never buy a Samsung laptop or Any Macbook. They have amazing specifications but Dell most of the times provide better quality anf better specifications than both of them and many other brands if you buy their High-End Laptop in a few given series of laptops. When it comes to choosing between Samsung and iphone, I prefer Samsung’s high-end mobile, as I have a special affiliation towards its Note Series. I just cannot do well with any other mobile, be it of any brand, or even any other series of samsung itself.

Okay, so the point is, do compare the quality and specifications of products before buying them, brands really do not matter, your requirements shall be met after buying that product and the cost of the product shall be reasonable according to its productivity and quality(including technical specifications), otherwise it’s more of a show piece that an actual device for you.

(10th june, 2021)

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Uninhibited..

Not desiring to be compartmentalised in one category,

‘She’s her best version’

Completely Self-actualised

will be the only end of my life’s story.

(Published on 8th dec, 21)

Quote of the day

Self-worth..

I used to fit

into the tiniest box

that only had a wrapping paper looking like love,

I take up my whole space now,

the good n bad,

the clean n nasty,

and see who can fill me up with love

like oxygen somehow.

(Written on 30th oct, 2020)