Lessons you will learn in your 30s about your twenties:
Partying hard is important but working harder is even more important.
Planning in your early twenties about your next 20 years could be life changing.
Go with the flow is the stupidest and useless concept, specially in career.
Knowledge gained in twenties never goes in vain.
It’s better to build a body in your twenties that can sustain anything in your later life for decades. Eating clean and healthy, working out really hard, getting sunshine and rain, breathing fresh air, etc. regularly could put you above most of the folks of your age who were into eating a lot of junk food, consuming alcohol, smoking, etc.
Those stupid crushes were nothing but a distraction.
Making connections just for the sake of career is really important.
Strategic expenditure and investments could put you ahead 90% of the people in 30s.
You could save a lot of wasted time and energy you spent on fake people, fake relationships, fake friendships.
You could be at least 10 times better if you had started preparing 10-12 months before any expected opportunity for your success and could succeed as well.
One career is not enough. One source of income is not enough.
Anybody can switch up on you, no matter who; even closest of family members for whom you may always fight.
People really didn’t matter and should not have mattered as much as you thought they did.
Who thinks what about you and your actions does not matter at all when you have reasons for each of your action and you are moving with the right and ethical purpose in mind.
Choosing your battles wisely is ultra-important. Letting some people live in their lies, misery, and stupidity, and going on with your head held high could save you a lot of mental energy.
Getting credits and appreciation for the work done by you was so necessary, be it in any form- reciprocated favour, certificates, money, or expanding the word about you.
Waiting for your love to be fulfilled by the other person as well kept you stuck for a long time. You could rather find the right partner and love could happen later on between you two.
Hoeing around many people kept you away from the best one for you, that you could have, that could be life changing for you for the better.
Humility and kindness were important but you should not have let people walk over you or use you or your sources.
Expecting anything from others is like blocking your own efficiency.
World runs on give and take; and people would keep on taking if you are a giver without boundaries.
You live only once is the utterly non-sense concept. You actually die only once and can live multiple lives and get a taste of different cultures, careers, people (as friends or acquaintances) but in a systematic manner. There is no point in spoiling your life though YOLO.
The fear of missing out is just a concept driven out of peer pressure. You never missed out on anything when you were completely sure that you didn’t want that thing or event to happen at that time.
Life is too short. Never leave an opportunity to speak your mind. Express emotions and let others know your thoughts without any fear of mis-judgements. 95-99% of the people misjudged your silence anyway.
Ignoring your creative side for the sake of your logical side and rational career could have made you feel frustrated for years.
You didn’t have to prove yourself to any single person on this planet about anything.
Learning skills were important but are always overly hyped. If you had taken enough time in understanding the working of anything, practicing it could take very little time. Studying and educating yourself intensively as well as extensively over your area of interest could really lead you towards expertise in it.
Jump first, think later is a stupid phrase. Thinking a lot before jumping into something could save you years or your entire life And from feelings like guilt, regret, and resentment. Don’t be driven by id.
One partner was really enough. You just didn’t have it in you to stay loyal or to be patient to find the right one.
Putting yourself first is never selfish. When you do help in terms of work, therapy, money, out of kindness, people start feeling entitled to it. People on top positions call it charity actually.
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Today I want to talk about my weight loss journey that happened in 2013. Directly coming to the point, I lost about 57 kg weight most of which was fat (yup, lost fat, not only water weight) and reduced weight from about 114 kg n some grams over that to exactly 57 kg. I would be lying if I say it was easy. And I gained about 10 kg in 2014 again due to depression n its resultant unhealthy eating habits. But reduced that weight again in about a month.
After that as well, I kept on gaining n losing weight of about 10-15 kg at different times. During the whole journey n every time I made a lot of research on what works n what doesn’t in terms of nutrition, exercise and hormonal balance-imbalance. By now, I can easily tell what causes fat/weight gain and it would remain until what time n how it can be shed.
I will share all of my experience and knowledge regarding the same on my other website www.yourchoicestlifestyle.com . Please follow that website if you are interested in knowing detail oriented plans and intricacies of weight loss n fitness. I assure you that you won’t be disapponted. I will be sharing the links of those blogs here om this website as well. Just in case you and/or any of your loved one needs to know about the experience of a really experienced person who experimented different things on herself for weight loss, share it with them. I will be sharing the upcoming related blogs on this website as well, but that would be occasional. So, please please follow that website n switch on the notifications or make the loved one who needs it, know about it.
I want to give an advice to young women/girls who want to get married at some point in their life. Actually, there are many points that I want to discuss under this topic and you may also find many advices online as well as offline regarding marriage. But there is one point that I want to put some light on which is often ignored while considering a life partner.
If you are a woman who is ambitious, takes her own decisions, works her ass off, is a go-getter, and is a provider, in short, the one who has most of the qualities of an Alpha Female, you need to see the family structure of the man if you are interested in him for marriage or life partnership or relationship. I am saying this because I have seen this pattern a lot in society that when and if the females of the family in which a man has grown up, did not work in office, and were by nature-submissive, coy, and silent, that man is going to want the same from his life-partner sub-consciously. It doesn’t matter how much educated or modernised he became, the years (decades) of mental training he got from his family sub-consciously is not going to change even if he finds the otherwise for himself consciously. He would want you to be the same meek and coy woman. Your boundaries will be aggressive to him. Your desires and ambition will make him feel insecure and he would like to impose his dogmatic thinking upon you just like his family’s females were pressed upon and taught to abide by the thinking and orders of the men in his family. He cannot comprehend that you can Think and Do better than him. His insecurities will start acting up whenever you will point out at his flaws, even if done politely. He may even be envious of your work and power because he was conditioned in his psyche’s developmental stages that women are not the Alpha and are meant to be protected and guided only. He may point at your frankness as rudeness. For him, submissive silence is elegance and speaking your mind will be needed to be in a controlled manner according to his dictates.
There will be, most of the times, power struggle between you two because you are an Alpha female and he may feel powerless because of that, so he will try to over-power you to soothe his ill-conditioned mind, and then there might be fights, manipulation and even separation between you two.
What do you think-is it better not to engage with such a man or is it better to engage and then be forced to leave in the end?? Or you can be ultra-submissive just like his family’s females and give upon your own power and capabilities and ambition to soothe his fragile ego??
(PS: Don’t come here with your feminist or anti-feminist mentality regarding this post. It’s about a particular kind of a man. The propositions may be relative to patriarchy but I did not point out at that. This advice is solely for alpha females who also love with whole of their being, so, kindly, do not come with the contention that love is adjustment and all. Those are different topics. I intended to write exactly about a very small fraction of possibilities.)