If anybody got offended by my last post, it only means that either they were finding pleasure and validation in my pain, which by any means is toxic, or they are over-analysing what I write. In both the cases, they need to find their mental balance and stop being overly reactionary.
PS- I am not giving any explanation about my behaviour here as I do not owe it to anyone for what I write. I am just trying to reflect on people’s reactivity so that they can heal on their own by self-evaluation.
Overly-motivational videos sometimes make you feel like you are the only one not doing good enough in life.
Use them with caution and only when you are willing to do something and are not depressed because believe it or not, it tends to depress you even further when you watch them talk about how one can “rise from the ashes” “go from rags to riches” “from blank to highly enlightened” with pure passion and courage and spirit. No people! Courage, spirit and passion are only a minor proportion of what is required to reach your destination. If everyone could attain everything based on mere passion which is actually only emotional power, each one on this planet would have been an achiever.
Where on the one hand, they are right to motivate others who need only motivation despite having every other thing required to reach a goal, on the other hand it can make one feel really weak who has no plan or target to achieve. One needs logic, grit and resources more than mere motivation. It’s like if you want to run a wheel, you need, first of all, wood or metal and tools and knowledge to assemble it to make it, rather than having a potential energy to be changed into kinetic one. One cannot make a wheel out of leaves or air or water merely with passion.
Kudos to those motivational speakers who talk about steps as well to attain your goals. They have in-depth knowledge of how things work and they talk with logic as well as emotions.
I was wrong to call a pure narcissist a toxic empath when I can see clearly all the aspects of narcissism in the same person. Triangulation means comparing two people in which the one who is praised is used by the narcissist to demean the other person when that ‘other person’ does not adhere to the stupidity, toxicity and malicious behaviour or demands of the narcissist. This is done to lower the self-confidence of one of two people compared. You will mostly see a narcissist jumping from one person to another, praising highly one person one day and when that same person gets to know about the narcissist’s malice and call out about it or expose that behaviour, then that person is met with the Tactic of Triangulation.
When a few people are confused between two people in the matter of courtship, one of those two being me, I love to take a note who all those chasers are, recede back and see who is going to win over that other person.
Because “If I don’t like to play the game, at least, I can enjoy watching it.” 😛🤣
And I keep that in mind that I don’t have to be with any of them. Because why?
Education and reading is crucial for one’s growth, there is no doubt in that. But what is more important in taking education is one’s intellect, level of understanding, and sensibility. If these three virtues are not developed enough, education or knowledge is bound to be misused.
For example, somebody told me a couple of days ago, “where the focus goes, energy flows” while keeping me under the veil of his identity. The statement was sounding really out of context and used cunningly to misguide, because WHERE THE INFORMATION RESIDES(i.e. from where the stimuli is released), THE FOCUS GOES THERE if that information is near to somebody in time and space. The FOCUS in such a proximity, that too, imposed proximity, is bound to go there first of all, and it happens because of the Fight or Flight mode activated instantly when a person feels something wrong is happening. So, it is immaterial where the focus is going when one is being given wrong cues to specifically drive one’s focus in that direction by using the language to which one is well acquainted and which is bound to drive the focus to a particular person. NOT SO WELL ARTICULATED THAT CONCEPT, MY DEAR, NOT SO WELL ARTICULATED. I find it very bad on somebody’s part when he/she uses any quote or concept to his/her advantage and to other’s disadvantage without even understanding that concept in its details or as a whole. People should go more in depth of concept and if they won’t, others will use those concepts against them.
Only reading the concepts and memorising them is not sufficient, if one is going to use them wrongly to confuse other people, GRASPING the True Meaning of Concepts is more important and only when one understands that meaning, one can apply it practically.