Lessons in your 30s about your 20s.

Lessons you will learn in your 30s about your twenties:

1. Partying hard is important but working harder is even more important.
2. Planning in your early twenties about your next 20 years could be life changing.
3. Go with the flow is the stupidest and useless concept, specially in career.
4. Knowledge gained in twenties never goes in vain.
5. It’s better to build a body in your twenties that can sustain anything in your later life for decades. Eating clean and healthy, working out really hard, getting sunshine and rain, breathing fresh air, etc. regularly could put you above most of the folks of your age who were into eating a lot of junk food, consuming alcohol, smoking, etc.
6. Those stupid crushes were nothing but a distraction.
7. Making connections just for the sake of career is really important.
8. Strategic expenditure and investments could put you ahead 90% of the people in 30s.
9. You could save a lot of wasted time and energy you spent on fake people, fake relationships, fake friendships.
10. You could be at least 10 times better if you had started preparing 10-12 months before any expected opportunity for your success and could succeed as well.
11. One career is not enough. One source of income is not enough.
12. Anybody can switch up on you, no matter who; even closest of family members for whom you may always fight.
13. People really didn’t matter and should not have mattered as much as you thought they did.
14. Who thinks what about you and your actions does not matter at all when you have reasons for each of your action and you are moving with the right and ethical purpose in mind.
15. Choosing your battles wisely is ultra-important. Letting some people live in their lies, misery, and stupidity, and going on with your head held high could save you a lot of mental energy.
16. Getting credits and appreciation for the work done by you was so necessary, be it in any form- reciprocated favour, certificates, money, or expanding the word about you.
17. Waiting for your love to be fulfilled by the other person as well kept you stuck for a long time. You could rather find the right partner and love could happen later on between you two.
18. Hoeing around many people kept you away from the best one for you, that you could have, that could be life changing for you for the better.
19. Humility and kindness were important but you should not have let people walk over you or use you or your sources.
20. Expecting anything from others is like blocking your own efficiency.
21. World runs on give and take; and people would keep on taking if you are a giver without boundaries.
22. You live only once is the utterly non-sense concept. You actually die only once and can live multiple lives and get a taste of different cultures, careers, people (as friends or acquaintances) but in a systematic manner. There is no point in spoiling your life though YOLO.
23. The fear of missing out is just a concept driven out of peer pressure. You never missed out on anything when you were completely sure that you didn’t want that thing or event to happen at that time.
24. Life is too short. Never leave an opportunity to speak your mind. Express emotions and let others know your thoughts without any fear of mis-judgements. 95-99% of the people misjudged your silence anyway.
25. Ignoring your creative side for the sake of your logical side and rational career could have made you feel frustrated for years.
26. You didn’t have to prove yourself to any single person on this planet about anything.
27. Learning skills were important but are always overly hyped. If you had taken enough time in understanding the working of anything, practicing it could take very little time. Studying and educating yourself intensively as well as extensively over your area of interest could really lead you towards expertise in it.
28. Jump first, think later is a stupid phrase. Thinking a lot before jumping into something could save you years or your entire life And from feelings like guilt, regret, and resentment. Don’t be driven by id.
29. One partner was really enough. You just didn’t have it in you to stay loyal or to be patient to find the right one.
30. Putting yourself first is never selfish. When you do help in terms of work, therapy, money, out of kindness, people start feeling entitled to it. People on top positions call it charity actually.

What are your right astrological signs?

WESTERN ASTROLOGY:

Virgo Sun, Scorpio Moon(under aquarius influence), Capricorn Rising

VEDIC ASTROLOGY:

Leo Sun, Libra Moon (under aquarius influence), Sagittarius Rising

So, according to western interpretation I am all earthy n watery whereas according to vedic interpretation I am all fire and air.

When you check out your own astrological signs be it regarding anything-online articles, youtube videos, astrology, tarot, you need to see which place the interpreter belongs to and which area’s intepretation they are following. There is no point in mixing up stuff. The interpretations are quite accurate if you follow this rule of vedic sign-vedic interpretation/interpretor/astrologer/tarot reader n western sign-western interpretor.

Actually, you can subtract one astrological sign in the sequence of western astrology to get your vedic astrological sign in terms of sun, moon, rising and venus.

I have seen people using their western sun sign with vedic moon sign and vedic rising (lagna) sign and then they stay confused whole of their life that why something doesn’t resonate with them or they end up with knowing things not meant for them. The same goes for match-making. Mercury, venus,saturn, every single sign is different for the same person in different astrological cultures. Do not confuse vedic n western.

PS: This is for only those who believe in astrology, tarot reading, etc.

(13th Nov, 2020)

What’s your focus for 2022??

What’s your focus for 2022??

Which kind to choose between confusing personalities of males?? (Psychological perspective with layman’s language).

We may get confused between the real nature of people and end up with the wrong one. Here, what matters is how to recognise someone’s personality. This one is for the females who really need to learn the difference between ‘BAD BOY, GOOD MAN’ and ‘GOOD BOY, BAD MAN’.

The Bad Boy, Good Man is a man who will respect you, stay committed to you, will not let you down or try to destroy you emotionally or mentally. He may act errant and childish from time to time by teasing, irritating or fighting with you for no reason, but that’s about it. He will not do that to manipulate you or to feed his ego but only because he needs to learn better behaviour or that kind of childishness is in him by nature that makes a part of his core personality. There is nothing much wrong in that. To err is human. To be errant is a part of every single person’s personality. He is teachable. He will have his shit together or he will try his best for that. Even at his worst, he will not use others to make him whole.

The latter one-Good Boy, Bad Man is someone you need to keep a distance from or say goodbye to, as soon as you can. This kind of a man is cunning by nature but behaves like a good boy displaying very good behaviour or acts like he is teachable but only as long as you keep feeding him with your energy, your good behaviour, your time, affection and love. He makes you and everyone feel that there is nothing wrong with him. He is a very well-mannered person. But, it’s all a facade. He does that to hide his inner ‘bad man’s character. When you stop or even take a break from or be unable to feed him with what he and his ego desires, he will start manipulating you. He will not think twice before cheating. He won’t commit to you ever. He will stay present in your life but only to control you because his inner man’s nature is inherently evil. He will not hesitate from disrespecting you, that too, when you did not do that much of a blunder or were just being errant like a girl (bad girl, good woman nature), and to disrespect you he may even cheat upon you and put all the blame on your behaviour which was quite normal as ‘to err is human’ and will never take the responsibility or accountability of doing wrong(s) to you. He will mostly use others even as a friend but will act right only when every single thing is going on according to his desires, wishes, whims and caprices. This kind of a man’s nature is inherently evil but he will always act like a good boy/good man in front of others.

Though these are not the only categories. There are ‘bad boy, bad man’ and ‘good boy, good man’ as well. But those personalities are quite easily observable yet they are not easily found. The real confusion happens between the two described above. I hope this will help someone.