We often run after things that are difficult to get. That’s a basic human instinct. Grow a little more spiritually and enjoy things that you presently have because in the past you didn’t have even that and when you will get things that you are running after, you won’t be satisfied again.
Those feelings… The lovely feelings and the moment you realise that you have something more than just a friendship or liking for someone. It feels blissful !! But then dwells in nervousness and a hell lot of anxiety when you start thinking about what to do about your feelings and your mind bombards you with tons of questions and fears. First of all, you are just not capable of understanding the true nature of your feelings. Even when after a lot of insight, you do understand it, you are not capable of putting forward those feelings to that person. Sometimes, it feels like you are going to explode with that much pressure of keeping them to yourself. What to do at that exact moment?? Confess it!! Yes, confess your love or liking the very moment you realize it. I know some of you might be thinking that it’s downright silly and some might put a lot of thought into it regarding what it’s outcome could be.
But, did you ever think that it might be too late?? Yes, it can be. Here are some reasons for why confession of love is always going to end up in your favour:
- Maybe that person has the same feelings for you and he/she is just as nervous as you are and is over-thinking it like you. And if you confess it first, it is going to end up in your union.
- Maybe that person has no such feelings at the present moment but he/she may have if you put up some efforts and make them feel your love. Confession of love or liking is the straight and simple first step here.
- Maybe it will not end up in your union but still you will get rid of the extra-burden of unsaid feelings that are over-whelming you.
- It’s always beautiful to spread love. Even if they cannot reciprocate your feelings, they will feel good about it and will end up liking you more than before.
- You will have no regrets because at least, you tried. 🙂
But before confessing that be sure what kind of feelings they are. Whether it’s just attraction, liking, love or lust. Recognize your feelings first and confess only what you feel. No understatement. No exaggeration. Trust me, you will feel blissful in the end. ❤
You left me like I didn’t matter!!
You miss me like I do??
Whatever is confusing me,
is only because of you !!
You made me love, you made me wonder,
You made me shiver, like you were a thunder..!
You loved, you kissed
and then, you left me and missed !!
I tried and cried,
I gulped all my ego and pride !
You made me yours and then left me on my own,
and now you think you don’t deserve any frown??
My feelings were only for you,
but they are no more;
because you treated me
like a yet another score !!
I couldn’t lose you,
but I lost..
That feeling that you gave me,
made me frost !!
Only thing now I feel I have lost is,
to know how to trust..
Still, I have faith in love
and that I must !!
When was the last time when you felt low emotionally and it was like your energy levels dropped drastically?? Last month, last week, yesterday, today or everyday?? You might be having depression or mood disorder or might be feeling plainly stressful all the time. In such situations you may or may not be liking to discuss the reasons behind your stress or strain. But anyhow if you try and discuss, you will meet with certain kinds of people and/or responses. You will find out that there would be some people who just want to see you physically fine, they have nothing to do with your mental or emotional well-being while others have nothing to do even with your physical well-being. And there will be a very few gems who want your wellness in both.
Here are some kinds of people and their reactions that you may get to know in such a situation:
- PEOPLE WITH INDIFFERENT ATTITUDE
There are some people who are with you only as long as you are capable of putting up a mask of happiness on your face and don’t show any kind of mood instability or stress and when you start showing up your insecurities and weaknesses, they avoid it like preventing themselves from an epidemic. They are the people with “hmmm.. It happens..”, “hmmm.. don’t worry”, “You don’t look good sad like this” kind of responses. I mean like really?? Are they even worthy of your time in general?? Leave alone your good times 🙄
- MANIPULATIVE PEOPLE DESIRING TO CONTROL OTHERS
Another category comprises of those who are waiting for you to share something with them just so that they can bestow you with their useless ‘Wise Advice‘ that is not even wise in the first place, but they have to advise anyway. Trust me, they too have nothing to do with your emotional well-being. They are the people with “I had told you”, “I knew this”, “You should do this” kind of responses. And they give you advice that prove their point right that they have always wanted to impose on you. Thanks but no thanks to such people and their ego-serving advice. 🙂
- STUPID AND INSENSIBLE PEOPLE
And then, there comes another category of people who ‘just laugh out‘ on anything and everything you say. They are listening to you just for passing their free time. In fact, don’t even listen to you completely and are not interested in understanding you or your situation anyway.
- TRULY WISE PEOPLE
There are barely any people who can ‘JUST LISTEN‘ and do nothing else unless asked for something !! They are truly wise people who understand that you are alone and you need to be listened to. They do not advise you unless you ask them to do so. They are the ‘real treasure‘. ❤
If there are any other kinds of people that you have met in such a situation, then do let me know in the comments section. Lots of love to all.
Today, I am here to discuss upon one of the very important goals of Fitness and life in general- WEIGHT LOSS ! We will do it summarily here in this post and can go into further details on your suggestions.
So, first of all, you have to make up your mind on these three pivotal questions before digging further into any kind of fitness regimen:
- how much weight do you have to lose to stay healthy?
- How much weight do you want to lose to feel good?
- In how much time do you want to reach your goal?
Trust me, once you think about and find out the answers to these 3 questions, you will find it very easy to follow through the techniques to reach your fitness goal and will feel highly motivated. After all, it’s your decision to be fit and you are going to achieve it !!
Coming to the First Part:
How much weight do you have to lose to stay healthy?
For this, get a check-up done from a medical practitioner and go through complete body tests especially lipid profile, thyroid functioning, lever functioning, haemoglobin, blood sugar level etc. so as to ensure that you do not have any medical condition specific to weight gain/loss and then use a BMI (Body Mass Index) calculator and BMI normal range indicator. Also, get your Fat Percentage checked from a medical practitioner or a gym trainer. This will let you know exactly how much fat weight you need to lose.
How much weight do you want to lose to feel good?
Apart from the healthy range of weight, there must be some weight goal in your mind that you think is going to make you feel better about your body and make you more attractive ( No offence here! You are already attractive, but I am talking about feeling “more” attractive here concerning your body only and you really want that 😉 ). Set a realistic target for this and never below your normal BMI range’s minimum weight. Somewhere in the middle of that range would be fine. But that should be a long-term goal. First set a short term goal like losing a few kilos from your big target to be achieved in a shorter span of time.
Here we come to the third part, i.e.
In how much time do you want to reach your goal?
As I have already said that you must decide a long-term goal and then cut it short into many short-term goals. The reasons for doing this are that, firstly, you still have no idea what kind of plan is going to work for you (because you have not tried anything yet), so you will have to go through some trials and errors to find the best possible method. Secondly, you will not feel over-burdened with a big goal. Big goals can be achieved in a long term and that needs sheer consistency and there is a great chance of being divergent from your weight loss goal or worst-give up on it. Shorter durations of control over your diet and maintaining a fitness regimen of exercise are easier to be achieved. Moreover, you will feel motivated when you will achieve your short-term fitness goals.
Short-term fitness goals ideally should be 1 week goal. But, in case you have shorter time or you don’t have that kind of control over your cravings or you can’t be consistent with exercise then, a 3 days goal is perfect for you just for you to test if it works for you or not. If you start liking your 3-days or 1 week routine, then that’s great, carry on with it. But, if you don’t feel like doing it anymore or you think that it’s putting a lot of pressure on you or you can’t be happy in that kind of routine, then switch to a new plan. Go with which plan makes you happy because you have to adopt it as a lifestyle so that after losing weight you can keep it off without getting hard on yourself and love it too. 😀
Don’t you trust me? The question often asked to us by someone whom we ask for an explanation for their words or actions. Alright..I know that trust is instinctual for most of the people, something that one acknowledges automatically.
But, what if someone has serious trust issues in general? I mean, if there is someone who just cannot trust anyone, how would you make that person trust you? Certainly not by pressuring or manipulating like throwing tantrums or accusing that person that he/she has irrational trust issues. NO! Really, a Big No for these ways.
The only way to make someone trust you who has trust issues naturally or due to some past experiences is to be honest with him/her. It might take some extra efforts from your side. You also might have to give them proofs or explanations for your words or actions every single time. You just have to keep calm upon their asking for the proofs or explanations, still, if they can’t trust you, then let it be like that. Don’t get mad at them. They are not doing it intentionally. They are also suffering from mental frustration. But it does not mean that you too have to go through the same kind of frustration or retaliate with the same kind of accusation like “I also don’t trust you”. Try and be polite and stay honest without getting offended upon asking for the explanations.
This will save a lot of time and mental exhaustion for both of you. Over time, they will start trusting you. Believe me, they will !! Because every person needs some adjustment from others in relationships of any kind and if you value them, you would not be dishonest with them in the first place. So, what’s the deal in giving proof for your honesty too. Yes, you may not like or maybe hate to be distrusted but understand that trusting someone may be a pivotal issue for them. They might have gone through certain experiences in which they trusted others and it ended up in shattering or breaking them.
If you think that enforcing them to believe you is going to work. It will not ! Rather they would feel like you are trying to pressure or manipulate them which is going to back-fire and ultimately result in severe trust issues. Only honesty begets trust. Nothing else.
In case, you have any other suggestions or advice to deal with someone having trust issues or if you agree to my point of view, then please leave your comments as I would love to hear from you all. And, do not forget to like and share this blog if you have the same view-point.
Thank you. Lots of love 🙂