SHALLOW WATERS

Trying to find the depth of love,

I fell into shallow waters.

(9th feb, 2020)

Personal view-point on a widely used quotation.

This is one of a few quotes that really irritate me.

First of all, quotes are some statements made by different people based on their personal view-points, opinions, situations and life in general. Like one size does not fit all, one quotation cannot be true completely or suit all.

Secondly, quotations are mostly one-liners or a paragraph which are generally not backed up by an explanation on why they have been written, so, they create a lot of misunderstandings about their exact meaning. Like digit 6 can be read as 9 when inversed or when read by two people standing in opposite directions, the same goes with such quotations.

Thirdly, coming to this particular quotation, it is not even a quotation as such. It is just a line, from a novel which I am sure is beautifully written and, must have it’s backing in the novel itself. This quote actually refers to one’s potential in relationships. Here, the word ‘potential’ means how a person is thought to be behaving in the future by a person who has been seeking that first mentioned person as a partner considering his/her probable qualities to come to the fore in the expecting person’s view-point. It has not talked about the general potential of anybody as a person outside from the expectation of a relationship.

Fourthly, considering it even as an expected potential in a person about his/her qualities regarding relationship, it sounds a demeaning quote that says that one ‘has to date their reality’. Here, what if somebody does not even know one’s reality? What if one person’s own judgement is wrong about the outer world in general because of their internal biases? Be it in relationships or otherwise, if one person cannnot accept other’s flaws, then that person really does not deserve anyone to be with them when they themself show their own flaws. And, nobody is flawless.

Last but not the least, this line is actually meaning to reiterate to somebody that whom they like actually currently does not deserve them and that person should not let his/her good view-point about that person over-power what that person is actually showing them (which can actually be bad traits).

I get irritated with quotes because of their incapacity to make things clear due to lack of explanation, desire to create more of confusions, and still pressing them upon others as something of eternal value.

(1st March, 2020)

Personal blog on Why I don’t go with the flow.

Why don’t I only observe where the other person goes and just go with the flow??

1. I do observe. I have observed a lot more than anyone can imagine and by the time other people think that I need to start observing, I have already observed enough and even concluded what’s happening and what would happen. I am not only intuitive psychically, I observe patterns much better than that.

2. If I will only keep on observing, then I will give my power to the other person to take the decision for me.

3. When I have concluded something based on observation and intuition and I am still not taking action based on that, both of them will prove to be futile; and I will always take the right action based on my principles, not based on what other people try to show me on surface level. I am almost immune to manipulation of any kind.

4. I want to save the other person and myself from wasting time and energy and just want to come to the point and set things straight for the future. I am mostly future oriented.

5. I don’t like to go with the flow. Only dead fish go with the flow. And I think that the universe has created me like this for a reason, and the reason can be to create the flow for myself and others. If everyone will be indecisive and keep on thinking about going with the flow, then even the universe will lose its mind (😂) that nobody does anything on their own. If I can do something, why would I put it in other people’s hands?

(27th feb,2020)

Advice coming through experience.

Do you ever look at somebody and feel really sorry for them because they cannot see other people in a good place or creating a good space away from them?? Everything you do becomes a competition. There is nothing like love in them. There is always a selfish agenda or trial to fill their own cup even at the expense of other’s emptiness and no matter how much you try to run away, they run behind you to suck at your mind, energy and soul, because they don’t have good enough of it on their own. You want to connect with good ones. You know you are a cooperative person who loves, cherishes and appreciates the good ones. You want to engage in both deep and light hearted conversations, giggles, laughter, good energy, beauty and romance. You love with your heart and soul who is meant to be loved that way. You want to give somebody everything you are and everything you have. You don’t let your ego play much role in that. There is no competition, only cooperation and kindness that can lead to a beautiful life. And, then comes the first one being envious of you and everything good in your life, wanting to gain something out of it, being extremely jealous from a distance, trying to get everything from you, your social image, love, respectfulness, integrity n dignity because that person is devoid of these virtues from a long long time. They just cannot see you happy on your own or with someone else. Take the advice here: You can be as rude as fuck to such creeps. If you do so, there is nothing wrong with you; you just want to cut a leech off your life who has been trying to suck everything good from your life. You owe nothing to such creeps just to prove that you are a good person. You may have a very good and loving personality and still can tell others to get lost or fuck off from your life; and as a result, don’t expect that many will consider your good qualities after that. Psychotic one is always blind to other’s goodness, they just want either you in their team or want to compete with you even if you do not compete at all and you want to maintain good distance, such a miserable one that is.

Respect everybody but you can disrespect those who earn it.

(First published on 4th Aug, 2021)

Any apt phrase?

When a person steals your dreams (in terms of your favourite movie/novel stories/songs to which you feel deeply connected) and sells them to someone else, and the latter gives that person a deception of a lifetime. What would you call it??

To whomsoever it may concern.

I have had chewed the hardest pills last year only,

Keep your shit to yourself now.

(Date: 24th march, 2021)

Steer mindfully.

YOU DON’T GO TO A MENTAL ASYLUM TO ONE UP WITH THE MENTALLY IMBALANCED PEOPLE THERE, SO SHALL BE YOUR GENERAL STRATEGY TO STEER YOUR WAY IN THE WORLD. YOU DON’T KNOW WHO CAN BE AN UNDIAGNOSED PSYCHOPATH IN YOUR WAY.

YOU THINK??

“We were supposed to be as one“

The joke of the year or life??

What did you do for that

Apart from running away from me

And being thankless for all of my love

For getting some crumbs from other

And ending up with nothing from there..

Now you gotta put it all on me??

Measure yourself.

There is a major difference between those who continually use the word love and those who consistently try to make somebody feel loved,

The former ones usually run away just when the times become hard,

And still chant the word love like nobody ever loved like them,

Gladly, I am amongst the latter ones,

Who actually stand the test of love,

Measure yourself:

Did it ever happen that you did not leave somebody first??

Did it ever happen that you waited??

Did it ever happen that you made somebody worthy of love forever??

Did it ever happen that you made them feel even an equal??

Putting somebody on a padestal for a few days,

Asking for attention verbally and continuously for weeks,

Ignoring the same person for months,

And then stalking and fighting with them for years,

This in any sense is NOT LOVE.

Toxic people and their delusion.

Toxic people live in so much of delusion that if you know what they are doing or you try to know to save yourself or somebody else from their toxicity, then they make you or try to make you feel like the culprit. It’s like a criminal blaming the police for making an investigation against the crime to know the identity of the criminal. Truly, this kind of psychopathy has no end or cure. It can only be controlled, that too, only if the toxic person(s) wants to improve upon himself, which actually is very rare. If toxic people can improve upon their nature, then it means that they have to know their reality first, about which they are really paranoid because it may lead them to expose their own hidden weaknesses to their conscious mind, which is generally unlikely to happen on its own. They just don’t know that they are wrong about something or they know but do not want to admit it. Again, fear of exposure of their personality’s weaknesses is the reason. Where a normal person tries to find out his/her weaknesses and tries to improve upon them or take help, professional or otherwise, toxic people always hesitate from taking professional psychological help; they always think that their behaviour is casual or normal, which is far from the truth and thus delusional.

Toxic people’s basic strategy applicable to various situations:

Take the garbage- Wrap it up- Place it out of anyone’s reach- Act like it does not exist.

But, it exists ! The garbage is there. Sooner or later, it begins to stink and either the toxic person begins to get irritated because of it or somebody else begins to smell it. That smell is the subliminal cues or red flags. Until it is known to somebody else, the toxic person begins to get irritated of that (his own psyche), and needs somebody to blame for it. That is why it is highly likely that toxic people cannot live alone for a long period of time. They are always needy.

(That begins the new topic of neediness that I do not want to talk about in this post.)