An advice for Alpha females for marriage..

I want to give an advice to young women/girls who want to get married at some point in their life. Actually, there are many points that I want to discuss under this topic and you may also find many advices online as well as offline regarding marriage. But there is one point that I want to put some light on which is often ignored while considering a life partner.

If you are a woman who is ambitious, takes her own decisions, works her ass off, is a go-getter, and is a provider, in short, the one who has most of the qualities of an Alpha Female, you need to see the family structure of the man if you are interested in him for marriage or life partnership or relationship. I am saying this because I have seen this pattern a lot in society that when and if the females of the family in which a man has grown up, did not work in office, and were by nature-submissive, coy, and silent, that man is going to want the same from his life-partner sub-consciously. It doesn’t matter how much educated or modernised he became, the years (decades) of mental training he got from his family sub-consciously is not going to change even if he finds the otherwise for himself consciously. He would want you to be the same meek and coy woman. Your boundaries will be aggressive to him. Your desires and ambition will make him feel insecure and he would like to impose his dogmatic thinking upon you just like his family’s females were pressed upon and taught to abide by the thinking and orders of the men in his family. He cannot comprehend that you can Think and Do better than him. His insecurities will start acting up whenever you will point out at his flaws, even if done politely. He may even be envious of your work and power because he was conditioned in his psyche’s developmental stages that women are not the Alpha and are meant to be protected and guided only. He may point at your frankness as rudeness. For him, submissive silence is elegance and speaking your mind will be needed to be in a controlled manner according to his dictates.

There will be, most of the times, power struggle between you two because you are an Alpha female and he may feel powerless because of that, so he will try to over-power you to soothe his ill-conditioned mind, and then there might be fights, manipulation and even separation between you two.

What do you think-is it better not to engage with such a man or is it better to engage and then be forced to leave in the end?? Or you can be ultra-submissive just like his family’s females and give upon your own power and capabilities and ambition to soothe his fragile ego??

(PS: Don’t come here with your feminist or anti-feminist mentality regarding this post. It’s about a particular kind of a man. The propositions may be relative to patriarchy but I did not point out at that. This advice is solely for alpha females who also love with whole of their being, so, kindly, do not come with the contention that love is adjustment and all. Those are different topics. I intended to write exactly about a very small fraction of possibilities.)

Thank you for reading. πŸ™‚

Author: Angry Bird

A dope soul and deep mind with a hot temper.

4 thoughts on “An advice for Alpha females for marriage..”

  1. I think this a slight generalization. I have known many men who come from that background who want to see their women soar to new heights. However, it’s slight because these same guys expect a different behavior in specific things. So your generalization is mostly accurate as well. I wanted to point that out so you could know where I’m coming from.

    I think that a woman needs to know what she wants. If a woman wants to be dominant in the world outside but submissive in a relationship, then it’s a good match. But I think that a woman should have a more discerning palate. If a man is not fitting, even in small ways, to who she truly is, she should look elsewhere. Do not change who you are to fit the man. Find the man that fits with you. And never be afraid of power struggles, they happen in every relationship, even friendships. But if the power struggle hurts you, or is constant, wave goodbye because that fish needs to be thrown back, it’s not the one you want or need to compliment all of you.

    Very nice post. Made me think about the struggles that most people ignore or don’t think of. Thank you.

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    1. Thank you so much for your wise words.. Agree to everything you have said.. It’s true that most men want a submissive woman in their relationship but the one who is a boss to the whole of the world..
      Also, yes, some men really want an equal..
      I think our thinking matches on this one.. πŸ˜‡πŸ˜‡

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      1. I tried to follow your rules when I was responding so I didn’t go completely off topic LOL

        You are a very good writer, and you make it very clear the distinction that you are talking about, and I think that if thought about there is no other conclusion. Strong men want strong women. Weak men need a woman they can control. Strong men with a weak constitution believe they want a strong woman but can’t handle the actual equality of the thing. However, there are men out there who can love all of you and accept equality. Those are the fish you want. The others should just be freed and thrown back for someone they are better matched with. Never lose a part of you for a man

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