Honestly, I never romanticize a happy n beautiful ending of a relationship or love in which at least one person becomes a wreck of emotions and is brutally broken into a zillion pieces. Of course, it’s always the fantasy of the other one. Very rarely it happens that the ditched n broken one would agree to end something peacefully n in a friendly manner. I did that a few years ago. I even became a friend with my abuser after the relationship ended. But, as the time passed by, I realized that the abuser keeps on abusing one’s boundaries as much as leeway space the abused one gives. The abused does not need to bear all the emotional burden just to prove that one was good and had genuine feelings or concern for the abuser. It just suppresses one’s trauma and the related emotions n toxic energy put into one’s mind by the abuser, and it comes out later in the form of trust issues, inability to be vulnerable, quick triggers leading to intense reactions etc.
So, really, one should give upon the fantasy of ending something bad on a good note if both the people don’t want it like that. If it feels bad and damaging to one, it is so and it should be treated like that only by that one and the other one has no right to ask for the otherwise just because they cannot handle the reality of the situation.